Genuinely need advice here; say your parents are generally very supportive and helpful and your kids adore them. But, they’re MAGA adjacent.
How hard would you be alerting them to things like Trump ending birthright citizenship, raising drug prices, etc, when you expended outrageous capital (1/2)
How hard would you be alerting them to things like Trump ending birthright citizenship, raising drug prices, etc, when you expended outrageous capital (1/2)
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(https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/24590751/ is one of the studies I was talking about)
This weekend, they were over for dinner, and in the span of 10 minutes, brought up…
- “Women shouldn’t be in sports media”
- “We should be able to disagree on politics and still be civil”
- “Thank God America will be normal again soon!”
All the hits.
I’m torn. I love them. My kids love them, and I don’t want to stop seeing them.
I’ve worked very hard to try and raise good human beings. I won’t have that corrupted, not even by my parents.
It makes me simultaneously furious and depressed.
Do feel compelled to say the generation is not the issue. Of the many 70 and 80 year old Black folks I know (in my church and family) none have gone down this rabbit hole.
Chipping away at their ideals (w/ sm comments) is my plan. I think pete buttigieg is excellent at calmly debating ideas.
If something works let me know!
Do you try to keep your and the peace, or browbeat them for four-plus years in hopes they see the light?
I’m at a loss, with so many familial relationships already frayed over trying my best
I think you're going to have an impossible time vs a constant barrage of disinformation.
You might just have to come to an understanding and not engage and ask them to do the same. Or they'll lose you.
I’m leaving all those Trump folks to themselves and their willful ignorance…we are now ‘no contact’…permanently!
I would not want to sever the relationship especially if grandkids like their grandparents, so defining clear boundaries would help.
That said, I am looking forward to them being shocked when their insulin price goes up.
Share facts w reliable info.
Make it personal by telling a story about how it impacts you or their grandkids.
Focus on shared values. Yep, still there. 🙂
Create a shared rule, no conversation about politics.
Prioritize your well-being above all else.
For me - blood means nothing other than happenstance. I also refuse to overlook shitty behavior "because they're family" (not saying this is you, just saying this is me).
With regard to your kids - they're *your* kids. It's up to you to teach, guide, and protect them, and ultimately they will see what boundaries you keep and internalize them on some level.
And I know the type of ppl I want my kids to become 😃
No one should have to put up with that. But that's just my 2c. As usual YMMV.