I heard a random gay guy in his late twenties say, "Monogamy is totally unrealistic and oppressive. I've only known one gay couple who was monogamous, and they broke up after three months." And now I feel like an ancient puritan. Is it really *that* unusual for gay couples not to be open?
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2. Str8 people have done open/play together things. In the 70s it was called swinging
3. Is he assuming every gay couple is open?
4. He needs to expand his gay social circle of else it's skewed.
5. He needs to just grow up.
- said in Blanche Devereau voice
I also think that it's not realistic for most people and shouldn't be considered "the norm" because generations of puritan society said so.
I also feel like expecting one person to fill all of your buckets (emotional/sexual/friendship, etc) is a tall order and is what often leads to couples having friction when they can’t provide everything for the other person.
Reading polysecure really opened my eyes.
Current bf and I are monogamous two years and counting.
Methinks that random gay feels guilty.
When meeting new gay couples, their being non-open is the unexpected status more often than not. To each their own, but I've found that more couples are open than not.
I'm personally in an open relationship but grown up enough to know it's not for everyone.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how hard that must have been.
And thank you.