Tell them when you're thinking of them. Don't wait. Just text a quick "love you" or "miss you" or a meme or a song. This lets them know that they're present in your heart even when they aren't with you.
Constant communication. We text throughout the days. We make sure to video chat for no less than one hour on the weekends and several smaller videos during the week.
Clearly defined expectations (if applicable) of how open and/or poly the relationship is. Have a shared document for all of this.
Remain present; do not over compensate for distance - this is can be really challenging in Poly dynamics. You’ll both have your people and the ones you are proximate to natural take on a more constant presence.
Be clear with your needs, hear theirs, be present and give space.
Communication is key. Find out from the other person if they need daily, weekly or monthly interaction (Phone, text, Zoom, FaceTime, etc) for the connection to keep them feeling like they matter.
Plan trips, events or encounters where you can actually engage each other physically to reconnect.
Make time for each other but don't make it ALL of your time. We quickly found ourselves spending almost all of our free time together on video chat, to the detriment of friendships, hobbies, etc. It worked for us - together 15 years, married for 13 - but I wish we had done that a little different.
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Clearly defined expectations (if applicable) of how open and/or poly the relationship is. Have a shared document for all of this.
Be clear with your needs, hear theirs, be present and give space.
Plan trips, events or encounters where you can actually engage each other physically to reconnect.