Boundaries can be difficult to uphold for the best of humans. Life is messy. Coming back to burned bridge is like a sign reading, “I’ve done all I could and that wasn’t enough, this isn’t for me.”
Part of being able to walk away from home was recognizing that they kept demanding I "build bridges to meet them *halfway*" but they never met me halfway. I had to go the whole way. And then they'd burn it down bc it wasn't good enough and demand I do it all over. So I finally stopped.
And there are some bridges that absolutely need to burn so that you don't have to worry about anything trotting over that bridge to try and drag you backwards.
I still struggle letting myself know it's okay to do that a lot of the time
Theres been so many times that the rest of my family keeps trying to pressure me and my sibling to start talking to our grandparents again, but we both know they havent changed
I'm tired of being made to feel guilty about it
"No." is a complete sentence. Don't get sucked into arguments you've had already. Nothing is forever, all things temporary, so maybe this no-contact is temporary. Maybe hearing that will be reassuring to your family. But also they can go kick rocks with their coercion!
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Any fool who my trust doth spurn
#Credo
Boundaries can be difficult to uphold for the best of humans. Life is messy. Coming back to burned bridge is like a sign reading, “I’ve done all I could and that wasn’t enough, this isn’t for me.”
If a bridge needs re-building we CAN do that.
but y tho?
This is so refreshing.
Thank you!
Theres been so many times that the rest of my family keeps trying to pressure me and my sibling to start talking to our grandparents again, but we both know they havent changed
I'm tired of being made to feel guilty about it