With a son you keep him from getting a girl pregnant. With a daughter, you keep her from letting a guy get her pregnant and she’s the one who gets stuck with the choice when it happens and it’s a hell of a lot easier for a guy to nope out of that situation. So girls have to be more vigilant - ThreadSky

xehsu.gay • 16 days ago

With a son you keep him from getting a girl pregnant. With a daughter, you keep her from letting a guy get her pregnant and she’s the one who gets stuck with the choice when it happens and it’s a hell of a lot easier for a guy to nope out of that situation.

So girls have to be more vigilant

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xehsu.gay•16 days ago

And learn how to look out for themselves and be selective of who she sleeps with. Good parenting does that but lazy doesn’t. Lazy will go the route of being restrictive

xehsu.gay•16 days ago

And it isn’t a boys will be boys mentality but a “men are trash and I don’t want to depend on parents raising their boys well when it just takes one to ruin my daughters life”

helena-hand-basket.bsky.social•16 days ago

Or maybe we recognize that our job as parents is not to control kids but to prepare them for adulthood. I have three daughters and never micromanaged them. They’re adults now, with not one pregnancy - not even a close call - in the lot. They were taught how to make good choices and trusted to do so.

xehsu.gay•16 days ago

That’s literally what I said. Good parenting teaches them how to value themselves and look out for their best interests to prepare them for adulthood, lazy parenting opts for restricting their freedom “for their own good” because they don’t know how to prepare someone for independence

fffffork.bsky.social•16 days ago

“With a son you keep him from getting a girl pregnant”

This focus on pregnancy feeds into the problem. How many girls get pregnant vs how many are SA’ed. It’s basically saying 👍to all the disgusting coercive and exploitative sexual interactions, so long as there is no pregnancy.

xehsu.gay•15 days ago

You’re really thinking that I’m saying SA is okay and not a concern for young women?

lizalbin.bsky.social•16 days ago

My parents’ hack for avoiding pregnancy was contraception.

xehsu.gay•16 days ago

The number of smart girls I grew up with who weren’t using contraceptives is too many :/

lizalbin.bsky.social•16 days ago

The kids I grew up with took themselves to PP for a gyno check up, or were taken to a gyno by their parents. Years before they started having sex with boys.

This was 1970s NYC. A brief moment between swinging 60s and AIDS in which a lot of parents were ok with their daughters having sex.

xehsu.gay•16 days ago

Good for them but not all are that fortunate or grow up in a culture where it’s even an option.

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