I have this radical idea that if something bad happens to a person, the appropriate response is, “I’m so sorry this happened to you.” I am shocked by the number of people who think being an armchair doctor or unfeeling jerk are the right course of action. If you can’t be kind, keep your mouth shut. - ThreadSky

aprilfiet.bsky.social • 2 days ago

I have this radical idea that if something bad happens to a person, the appropriate response is, “I’m so sorry this happened to you.” I am shocked by the number of people who think being an armchair doctor or unfeeling jerk are the right course of action. If you can’t be kind, keep your mouth shut.

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rowinpoe.bsky.social•2 days ago

Offering reactive apology to anyone, is an unhealthy social norm, and victimizing behavior.

We don't need to normalize apology response to trauma or attention seeking.

We need to provide #EducationReform focusing on consent and power dynamics.

We need to #unite for parity.

#PetitionForParity 🌏

aprilfiet.bsky.social•2 days ago

I appreciate your response. I’m thinking about people who are suffering. Let’s say, someone has their home destroyed, we can feel empathy for them and that is good, but blaming them or celebrating their pain is such broken behavior

rowinpoe.bsky.social•2 days ago

Someone who had their home destroyed in a natural disaster, is one of the privileged people that are enabling and accepting the exploitation required to have more than the impoverished.

The homeless, or starving children in genocide currently, don't seem to get the "rights" to the same respect...

violinautie.bsky.social•2 days ago

Someone tried to tell me last week my cat died of abandonment and neglect. I shut them up pretty quick!

brknpoet.bsky.social•2 days ago

Oh that's just evil and absolutely untrue!!

violinautie.bsky.social•2 days ago

One thing I take peace in knowing is that I couldn’t have loved her any more! But it wasn’t a very nice thing to say!

brknpoet.bsky.social•2 days ago

You loved her so well, as did your neighbours. It's terrible how cruel people can be!

aprilfiet.bsky.social•2 days ago

Oh, I’m so sorry! I’m sorry for your loss, and for what that person said to you

trutiffany.bsky.social•2 days ago

I WILL FIGHT THEM

mr-finchwood.bsky.social•2 days ago

kootenayrev.bsky.social•2 days ago

Being a decent person is an act of resistance now.

aprilfiet.bsky.social•2 days ago

Sadly true

ventifact.bsky.social•2 days ago

"armchair doctor" is a sort of question-begging label, but anyway surely there are times when someone is experiencing something bad and you are in a genuine position to talk with them about understanding the situation?

aprilfiet.bsky.social•2 days ago

There may be times for that, but I would guess that the vast majority of times, the right time for that is not when the situation has first happened. When a person’s world has been upended, sitting with the person in their grief or hurt needs to come first

ventifact.bsky.social•2 days ago

it does make me wonder why I missed the "when the situation has first happened" part of your original post

aprilfiet.bsky.social•2 days ago

Bluesky has character limits, which makes it hard to include nuance

ventifact.bsky.social•2 days ago

wait, are you saying the "when the situation has first happened" bit wasn't in your original post?

aprilfiet.bsky.social•2 days ago

The original post just said “if something bad happens” to a person

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