Anyone else ever feel like the phrase "Nah, I don't want to bother them" is the most common phrase they think
I'm like incapable of messaging people because I always feel like I'd be annoying them
I'm like incapable of messaging people because I always feel like I'd be annoying them
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But in all seriousness, that's 90% or the time I wanna message someone but not do it, brain chemistry is "fun", isn't it?
"They probably don't want to be bothered."
"They probably don't actually like me."
"It's been so long because time-blindness and chat scrolls, so they probably don't want to hear from me."
I think a lot of us go through this sort of thing.
Though I do get the sentiment. I feel the same way with some peeps.
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Also me: "I'd probably be bothering them, or make things awkward by not having anything to say"
And now I'm turning that around. I am so sorry I didn't poke you sooner my dude.
So yeah, I totally feel you... And you should totally poke that person you were thinking of when writing this! <3
I am working on actually checking in on people again and giving them my time. If they want to be left alone they will tell me. I just need to actually put myself forward and reach out.
Speaking of, how ya doing tonight?
Like leaving a comment is a different thing for me but having to do a private pm is just to intimidate Hense why I say nah I don’t want to bother them almost daily lol.
I really suffered during covid.
And yet.
One trick I've found for the anxiety is to tell them "Hey, also, if I get annoying or you need me to calm down/stop talking a bit, let me know, and I won't be offended" It is, to some extent, a trick against my OWN anxiety, because. I've given them permission~!
"I SAY! I see we both enjoy the idea of people being jammed into hot, squeezy spaces. LET US DISCUSS THIS." XD
Me - "I'm good! *Talks about stuff that's current to start a conversation"
Anon - "Ah ok" *Leaves
Me - 🤨
You’re pretty cool tbh, definitely wouldn’t mind a DM, lol
I always do like to meet new people, i just fear they won't like who I am
i, myself, admitedly, have stopped myself from responding on your posts a few times because "ive already spammed them enough i dont want to be too annoying".
so i do feel you on that.
Like I am annoying them or am somehow a burden
Very tough to consistently open up a conversation myself, always gotta wait until they approach so I know they want to talk to me.
if you can break that cycle though, be the first to speak, it will be a benefit