Credit goes to adhdoers (@adhdoers.bsky.social?) . There are four more in the thread. A word about this spiral for other #adhd folks out there: - ThreadSky

baconmelon.bsky.social • 141 days ago

Credit goes to adhdoers (@adhdoers.bsky.social?) . There are four more in the thread. A word about this spiral for other #adhd folks out there:

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baconmelon.bsky.social•141 days ago

When I was about 7, I was in between stepdads and we were living in some apartments behind a Target in Twin Falls, ID. My vision was getting worse, I was terribly sad and upset about a lot of things, had no idea how to cope, and I wanted to be part of a group of kids that hung around with my

baconmelon.bsky.social•141 days ago

Older brother. One night while I was outside with them, an older girl in the group turned to me and said, “If you don’t change, you’re never going to have any friends, for real.”

I remember the shock and the pain of such a harsh statement, even 30+ years later. In hindsight, it was a pivotal

baconmelon.bsky.social•141 days ago

Moment in my shame spiral habituation.

People with ADHD are often socially abrasive, but have no idea why. And the correction doesn’t tend to stick because of what is called the “symptom-response-response” cycle. (See The ADHD Effect on Marriage.) I exhibited a symptom, people responded (poorly)

baconmelon.bsky.social•141 days ago

To that symptom, and I respond to their response by doing as the graphic suggests: avoiding, defying, procrastinating. What I’ve been left with is a deeply held conviction that I can never truly be myself because how I truly am doesn’t work, and I’m broken.

baconmelon.bsky.social•141 days ago

I wish I had a more cheerful ending to this thread, but I don’t. This life is suffering, and I believe in a Higher Power whom I hold - rightly or wrongly - in contempt. I was an innocent little boy. He is complicit in breaking my mind. Is a bit oxymoronic perhaps, but most people when

baconmelon.bsky.social•141 days ago

faced with the Problem of Evil (google it) either decide that God doesn’t exist, or decide to live as if he does. Some others shelve the problem and choose not to confront it.

I’m solidly in the second camp, and choose for now to live pissed at my Higher Power, because doing that to me

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