I think there are some hurts and trauma that only the love and acceptance of a child can heal in a parent. At some point, we must be ministers of mercy and grace to their own brokenness and hurt. We were sent to them as much as they were sent to us. - ThreadSky

storyofndblake.bsky.social • 221 days ago

I think there are some hurts and trauma that only the love and acceptance of a child can heal in a parent.

At some point, we must be ministers of mercy and grace to their own brokenness and hurt.

We were sent to them as much as they were sent to us.

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charissagrace15.bsky.social•221 days ago

Oooph...this topic.

It was a Something in this area that opened me up to the realization of God as the "ultimate failed Parent" since every one of Their children has rejected Them (my tendency to judge myself as a parent based on such criteria)

storyofndblake.bsky.social•221 days ago

Blessings and peace, Sister. I hope this topic didn’t stir up grief in you.

storyofndblake.bsky.social•221 days ago

I believe children have agency like all of humanity, and while it might be natural to feel their rejection as failure (and surely sometimes that is the case), it is not necessarily so.

I don’t see YHWH as a failed parent. I see them as loving us so much that they give us the freedom to walk away.

charissagrace15.bsky.social•221 days ago

Yes, I think that as well. It was in a very hard time when I was seeing things that way when They spoke in my heart that if I was to apply that "fairly" then I had to call Them the Ultimate Failed Parent(s)...thus They sought to correct my thinking.

seasickgadabout.bsky.social•221 days ago

The problem is that love and acceptance aren't always enough. Some parents also require control; some can't own the truth of the harm they cause. Ultimately, children (even adult) are never responsible for their parent's emotional well-being and healing. Sometimes, only prayer is left.

storyofndblake.bsky.social•221 days ago

Surely, the desire to control is something that must be handled appropriately. Boundaries are often necessary.

Are children responsible? No.

Are parents responsible for the emotional well-being of their adult children? No.

I think mercy and grace are not about responsibility but choice.

storyofndblake.bsky.social•221 days ago

And surely, each case is nuanced. I do not hope to make this a blanket statement or place an onus of responsibility on those who have been abused or neglected.

Only to say that parents carry their own trauma and hurt into parenting, and we should, when able, show them the same mercy we require.

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