Abuse isn't like an all or nothing, it starts subtle, and includes things like cutting people off from their support network, chipping away at their self-esteem, gaslighting them into questioning their own experiences, so by the time it becomes overwhelming the person feels trapped.
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Kat Tenbarge
People apparently think they’re being clever when they tell abuse victims to leave once a relationship turns abusive. In reality they’re demonstrating they know nothing about how abuse works at either a psychological or practical level
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It's much more complicated, involving cutting people off from support systems and making them reliant on the abuser. This is why stories from former Trad Wives who escaped are so scary