Yeah god, the times I've felt "Ah, you don't want to talk to *me*, you want to talk to your imagined version of me and imaginary me really wants to talk about fetish scenarios all day apparently, huh?"
And watching their clear disappointment when it turns out I'm extremely boring
For real. This is part of why I distance myself from these conversations with forms. I do not get any enjoyment out of discussing details/ideas with clients. If they know what they want, they can tell me. If not, I'll figure it out and pitch the idea.
I'm not RPing with clients. Ever.
I think these people dont realize or dont care that theyre also taking MORE of my time, for free, for a potential comm idea.
This is unpaid labor. We are not playing in the space, you're holding me hostage for a commission that might not even happen.
It’s been a problem since day one when I was 18 and opened my nsfw account. I’ve had a commissioner request to meet up with me. People think they are slick but after some time in the industry it’s easy to sniff out. Easiest way to get blacklisted from my comms for sure.
Ugh, yes. The types of art I do are not SW. Not that there is anything remotely wrong with SW. But me doing a nsfw commission does not equal consent to my body or open up the opportunity to engage in anything sexual with ME. Art is just... art. And to use someone that way is not consent. It's gross.
We are exchanging money or pleasantries at most
I am not turned on by making art for you. This is my job. I get no erotic thrill from talking about intimacy with strangers. Me being open about my own interests doesn’t mean I’m interested in you.
This is so important and I don't know if a lot of people realize it happens. I've had so many people not even contacting me for commissions just asking me weird, prodding fetish questions and it's the most disgusting thing you can do to someone over the Internet.
As an nsfw artist myself I have dealt with a lot of folk seeing my personal character in a lewd situation & (for whatever reason) some folk take that as an invitation to write an essay on what they wanna do to me, it just comes off as overly assuming and disrespectful & when I correct it, I’m rude…
Yepppp
Ppl see ur into the same stuff as them and jump at it. I have the most trouble with this kind of thing when it’s a fetish piece like sph or plushies etc.
I used to particularly specialize in drawing omorashi, and the people it sometimes brought to me made me immediately want to rebrand. I swear porn turns some adult people into the most inconsiderate, entitled children I've ever had to speak to.
I’m so sorry to hear that, if anything it’s an artist solidarity moment I suppose, it’s a good thing to have boundaries for this kind of thing since I noticed that the more I allow that to slide by ignoring it the worst it gets. I appreciate u talking about this and shedding light on this issue. ♥︎
Oh man, I'm so sorry that people do that. I'm awkward AF and I often try to make sure that whatever I commission will be fun to work on for the artist, but never EVER would I be hoping for any kind of sexual conversation or anything of the sort. That's so weird.
Like if I'm getting nsfw from someone, I'm only discussing with them the NSFW particulars of the comm, it is actually not a commissioners business what artists like and dislike nsfw wise unless they outline something they wont draw (which is a reasonable boundary to make).
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And watching their clear disappointment when it turns out I'm extremely boring
...meanwhile my answer is just "I wanted to do X to my character, there's no other reason"
I'm not RPing with clients. Ever.
This is unpaid labor. We are not playing in the space, you're holding me hostage for a commission that might not even happen.
I am not turned on by making art for you. This is my job. I get no erotic thrill from talking about intimacy with strangers. Me being open about my own interests doesn’t mean I’m interested in you.
Ppl see ur into the same stuff as them and jump at it. I have the most trouble with this kind of thing when it’s a fetish piece like sph or plushies etc.