Agree that the loss of third spaces has left a real gap…for everyone. Blaming feminism for that isn’t the answer. It’s a distraction from doing the real work of growth. Everyone faces rejection. Everyone struggles with connection. That doesn’t justify resentment, political extremism, or misogyny. - ThreadSky

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kristinasworld.bsky.social • 26 days ago

Agree that the loss of third spaces has left a real gap…for everyone. Blaming feminism for that isn’t the answer. It’s a distraction from doing the real work of growth. Everyone faces rejection. Everyone struggles with connection. That doesn’t justify resentment, political extremism, or misogyny.

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kristinasworld.bsky.social•26 days ago

We need more spaces where people feel seen and supported without needing to “earn” belonging. That’s the kind of world I want for my children and for everyone else too.

Out of curiosity—what do you mean when you say it’s “completely different” for women?

kristinasworld.bsky.social•26 days ago

Women face rejection too, just in different forms. What do you think makes it fundamentally different? Women are rejected, ghosted, led on, and overlooked constantly. It just doesn’t always look the sam and women are usually taught not to externalize their anger.

duskydesert.bsky.social•26 days ago

men face it upfront and have the onus being on them most of the time... this leads to them obsessing over approaching (see the PUA craze in the late 2000s) and being more aggressive with women to get what they want. bad for everyone involved.

kristinasworld.bsky.social•26 days ago

I get where you’re coming from. But I think we all get freer when we stop blaming each other and start questioning the systems that taught us these roles in the first place. The PUA movement pushed a version of masculinity built on performance and control.

kristinasworld.bsky.social•26 days ago

It told men their worth was in conquest, not connection. That kind of pressure is toxic and exhausting. Women are hit with something similar. We’re often taught that our value lies in being desirable, but on someone else’s terms.

kristinasworld.bsky.social•26 days ago

We’re supposed to be pretty but not too assertive, confident but not “too much,” independent but still appealing. It’s a different shape, but the same trap: tying our self-worth to how others respond to us.

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