being neurodivergent and having crazy ass dysfunctional parents is lowkey a nefarious nerf. i can feel myself unlearning healthy social skills exposed to the sheer radiation of my family why are they so bad at having conversations
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Honestly this is so validating and relatable. You have been one of my favorite artists since the tumblr days. Good to know you know the struggle too. 😭✌🏽
Agreed. I was lucky enough to have that option to move out... until I had to go back. I felt like all I had unlearned came back worse. It was awful. But a therapist told me that reverting is very common and stressed how important it is to not beat yourself up when it happens. We can do this!!
Legit. It makes you start gaslighting yourself and whether or not you’re more like them than previously thought.
Being able to see that though, means you have a level of self awareness they don’t and by default that makes you better❤️
no this is so real. its like you can feel the venn diagram of you and your family slowly becoming a circle and you're not allowed the space or distance to figure out if it's true or not hfhfhhdhd
I hope that one day soon you can limit your contact to a healthy amount, and sift the real parts of yourself from their influence.
It’s easier to choose different behaviour when you’re watching them fail at a distance.
You are not your family❤️
I feel this. My family is similar. They were just kinda... there, not actively bad but not really providing support or explaining things. I remember my brain suddenly clicking on in highschool, realizing how underleveled of a person I was, & seeing how my friends actually had functional families.
the amount of consequential debuffs I took from growing up with ADHD feels like one of those joke runs you do in RPGs when you pick the worst possible stats for your character and try to finish the game with them
Growing up was rough, parents didn't know how to handle a adhd kid. Thankfully though I watched them grow too.
Both were open to changing their ideas of things and became better people as time went on. I love my Ma n dad.
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Being able to see that though, means you have a level of self awareness they don’t and by default that makes you better❤️
It’s easier to choose different behaviour when you’re watching them fail at a distance.
You are not your family❤️
Both were open to changing their ideas of things and became better people as time went on. I love my Ma n dad.