Either way, you can decide how to handle things. I think making up excuses sounds anxiety inducing for you, and it might be easier to come clean and just let others decide how to deal with it.
Well, reclassify a win. If anxiety is on both sides of the problem, one makes a solution where anxiety is no longer something you have to maintain. Instead, it is temporary until they answer. 🐱
I guess for you. I don't know your calculus. I can't lie very well, so it would be more for me. Lying here would cascade down to choosing which clothes to wear, what topics to discuss, and even what I can call partners. 🐱
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Typically I just tell obfuscated truths.
Like “why do you want to visit Seattle”
Oh I have close friends there that I would like to visit
Not
Oh I have partners who live out there that I’m dying to see
It’s true I do have friends I wanna see but it’s not everything