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Lots of autistic people talk about "masking" - pretending not to be autistic in order to fit in. But what are its costs and benefits - is it ever worth it? #Autism

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Suppose you're autistic and diagnosed in adulthood. You're in work but should you or shouldn't you tell your manager and colleagues? Here's some things to think about. #Autism

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A reasonable adjustment is a moderate change to make things accessible to a disabled person. But what reasonable adjustments work for invisible disabilities? #Autism

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We autistics tend to believe what we are told and potentially take it literally. So if things are changing, make sure you communicate what literally is going to happen to avoid misunderstandings. #Autism

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We autistics need to reclaim our pasts and learn how to manage, but not obsess about, the traumas the happened during earlier times of less understanding. The message of Eastertime is about renewal and rebirth, putting the past behind us and moving on to better things. #Autism

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It OUGHT to be possible to do change in a way that works for autistics, but people so seldom do. Here's a few hopefully helpful ideas on doing better. #Autism

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It's a common belief that autistics can't deal with change. But it's not that clear cut be any means. I can deal with change provided I have the right continuity and scaffolding in place. #Autism

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Autistic Spectrum Church – TODAY 6 April 2025 At 2.30pm on Sunday 6 April, St Mary of Charity, Faversham will host a short service of words and music FOR autistic Christians LED BY autistic Christians. The theme will be that God made some of us autistic and that must be how he likes us. The…

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April an autism awareness - that's a great thing isn't it? Well kind of. I'd much rather be accepted than have people "aware" of me. And not all well intentioned actions this month will land well... #Autism

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"Don't worry - it doesn't matter that you're autistic" sounds like a kind thing to say but is it? It's really saying "I'm prepared to overlook the thing that's wrong with you" which is much less inclusive. #Autism

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Found a little pulled up plant on the pavement. Took it home and planted it. Now it's flowering. Well done plant.

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Tomorrow will be Pancake Day - Shrove Tuesday. A good moment then to get some bad poetry out of my system before Lent. No - I cannot let it go. #Autism

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If you're autistic you feel the effects of bad management sooner and you feel them worse - we're the canary in the coal mine and that could actually be useful. #Autism

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They can't look you in the eye - that means they're untrustworthy liars doesn't it? Or maybe it means they're autistic and eye contact is just painful. #Autism

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Are you one of those colleagues who loves to "pop round" to someone's desk to "have a chat"? It's a way of showing informality and equality, and of being spontaneous, isn't it? Well yes, it can be, or it can be an autistic nightmare! #Autism

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Anglican autistic world: are you up for a church service for autistics led by autistics (as far as poss)? Well it's coming to St Mary of Charity Faversham at 2.30pm on 6 April. www.achurchnearyou.com/church/11983...

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How much do you assume someone will follow unspoken norms when you give a simple instruction? Try giving it to an autistic person and you may find out! #Autism

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Today is the 80th anniversary of the liberation of Auschwitz-Birkenau. Among the victims of the Holocaust were disabled people - may they be remembered. #Autism

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The obituary of the violist Eric Sargon published in The Strad: www.thestrad.com/news/obituar...

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You'd like me to get on I'm sure And you think that I'm dodging a chore But I really can't start I must get to the heart And understand what it is for. #Autism

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My brain wants to see black and white; Making things either sadness or light. But my autism's mixed; Both between and betwixt. It's neither all gloom nor delight. #Autism

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An epiphany is a great revelation and the greatest of my life has been the revelation quite late on that I was and am autistic. #Autism

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Are you making a New Year's resolution? Are you going to beat yourself up if you don't keep it? Will that, actually be a positive thing? Sometimes it's worth remembering achievement doesn't equal worth. #Autism

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If you're a praying person or at church this Christmas please remember parents surviving the season without children lost this year or in earlier years.

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It sounds so easy doesn't it - make everyone have the same and then it'll be fair. But life doesn't work like that. What works for one person doesn't necessarily work for another. #Autism

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@revrachelmann.bsky.social hello! I think you wrote the Advent book for this year about waiting in a time of anxiety? Just wanted to say I think its really good. Plus I have a Noel Nouvelet earworm.

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Just wanted to put a plug in for the Gospel Messiah on BBC4 Sunday at 9pm - here's a clip - I'm visible at 35secs in: fb.watch/wzVyASSKxq/

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For many people invisible disabilities seem like things that can be turned off. They're not seen, so they can't be real, right? But asking me not to be autistic for a bit - even if you only imply it - isn't helpful. #Autism

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Networking is vital for work, but it's also often an autistic no-no. Here's such tips as I've gleaned on how to network in a way that works for an autistic brain. #Autism

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It's all very well spending your whole life learning how to interact with neurotypical people who seem to act in illogical and emotional ways half the time, but what to do when the illogical emotional person is me? #Autism https://helenjeffries.wordpress.com/2024/12/02/a-vague-feeling-of-anxiety/

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If you would like to see my talk from Christ's College Cambridge Evensong on Sunday it's now here: helenjeffries.wordpress.com/taste-and-ne...

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Just one month till Christmas! Joy to all - hopefully. But for autistics, Christmas can be a problematic time so let's try to get ahead of it this year. #Autism https://helenjeffries.wordpress.com/2024/11/25/oh-joy-christmas-is-approaching-again/

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We have reached peak Guardian.

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