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shanders.bsky.social
THE GREAT WHEREVER (forthcoming from Holt, summer ‘26); COMPANY, 2024 winner of the L.A.Times Book Prizes Award for First Fiction: https://www.graywolfpress.org/books/company. Mom, twin mom, lawyer, Silver Springer. She/her
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Rewatching a sitcom where everybody is going through the 30something transitions when that stage is behind you is a surreally tender experience!! I thought I was done feeling visceral amounts of stress about family-building 😬😬😬😬

submitted 23 hours ago • 1 comment

I’m a huge fan of the co-op nursery school model if it works for your family—our kids get to be around a consistent batch of grownups who aren’t their parents and who we know and trust (and who’ve been fingerprinted!), which really helps counter this thing of parents alone being on the hook always

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Writing friends, I’m doing a craft lecture (plus generative exercise and Q&A) through @onestorymag.bsky.social on the afternoon of Saturday, 6/14! Topic: exploring character through formative relationships. Details here: one-story.com/product/2025...

submitted 2 days ago • 1 comment

Spending this kind of money on a kiddy party is basically the same as spending it on your golfing habit. If you do it, it’s because you enjoy it. And therefore you will never be able to talk someone who wants to, just like you won’t be able to convince a golf lover that golf is a waste of time

submitted 2 days ago • 6 comments

Yes let’s PLEASE make James Frey the poster child for generative AI in creative writing, it’s perfect beyond what we could have hoped

submitted 2 days ago • 1 comment

Also, if there is a human person in your life interacting with you this way, you need to get away from them STAT and rigorously protect yourself!! We should not be getting used to interacting in a human way with an entity that has no fidelity to human principles like honesty, truth, and shame!!!!

submitted 2 days ago • 0 comments

I hope that every person I care about is able to continue to resist the urge to relate to ChatGPT as a sincere and omniscient friend, because it is none of those things

submitted 2 days ago • 2 comments

Also like - writing multigenerational family stories - writing curséd Millennials - piecing together one’s own faux MFA

submitted 3 days ago • 0 comments

Does anybody need an AWP panelist (me!) who can talk about: - writing with kids - writing with kids plus a day job - publishing both short story collection and novel - other things such as …? Please reach out if so!! I’m near Baltimore and will be there by hook or by crook.

submitted 3 days ago • 2 comments

Once again—so often when people say things like “AI has exploded my creativity!” what they actually mean is that now they feel entitled to take credit for things they would once have credited to others. Consuming something isn’t the same as creating it.

submitted 3 days ago • 1 comment

The temptation here is gonna be to blame Gen Z for sucking, but if they don’t understand that “it’s boring” or “my toddler doesn’t do it it the way I want” aren’t good reasons not to perform an essential parenting function, that is at least partly their own parents’ fault (AHEM GEN X)

submitted 3 days ago • 6 comments

Caption: comment “scramble me” for my recipe for scrambled egg-based chocolate pudding! Me: (there’s no way we are this desperate and proteinpilled) Comments: Scramble me Scramble me Scramble me Scramble me Scramble me Scramble me Scramble me Scramble me Scramble me Scramble me Scramble me Scramb

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I think something that’s not well understood is why writers are hesitant to negatively review work by living writers. For me, it’s partly bc—esp in the age of social media—they’re our peers and the closest thing we have to coworkers (as I heard @rumaan.bsky.social put it once on a podcast)! …

submitted 4 days ago • 1 comment

As a person who saw the first few episodes 1 million years ago and completely lost interest, I’m having fun trying to guess what this image—which has zero connection to anything I remember from those episodes—could possibly mean

submitted 4 days ago • 1 comment

In 2025, a casual dress *without* pockets is like…a mistake was made here 🤔

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