a thing cis folks should know: trans folks are by & large really patient & forgiving for the same reason most marginalized folks are: we have to be to survive
there’s not a ton of us—each of us is somebody’s first—& we’re great at discerning “oops, i missed” from “i don’t think you’re fully human.”
there’s not a ton of us—each of us is somebody’s first—& we’re great at discerning “oops, i missed” from “i don’t think you’re fully human.”
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too many cis people have internalized the past decade of transphobia about how if they make a single minor mistake towards a trans person we'll go supernova meanwhile most trans people i know are hesitant to correct anyone on anything because they don't want to make a thing out of it.
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When my girls were younger, the older generations would default to male, even when they were covered in pink clothing. Younger people default to they.
but that’s a very long conversation and the world is too fraught right now for me to deal with that fucking discourse.
some questions that made me think we need a transsexual rabbinical college. “🧐 this depends on what you mean by ‘birth,’ my child.”
some truly out of pocket shit where i’m like, “just so you know, when you meet #2, you’re not allowed to ask that.”
Like with anybody else really. Just kindness and respect. That's all.
for the love of god, especially if i'm your first and you whiff, all i need is an "oops" and we keep going. i don't need to feel bad and have the emotional labor of pulling you down from the cross, too.
1) People don’t mind questions if you’re not a weird asshole but
2) He was bad-faith posting because he’s a weird asshole
also 3) Why did he / his wife feel like they needed to know their server's gender anyway? Did they not introduce themself when they were seated?
but more to the point, there's simply no way that shit happened.