I hate when I put something off for ages and it looms over me until it takes on this horrible ultra-menacing quality for weeks and then when I finally do finally get it together it takes like fifteen minutes and is super easy
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No self hating!! You may have needed that time to steel yourself to Do Even More despite all the potentially disabling stress of the last few years without dropping any balls already in the air
Imagine you could swap these duties for your friends. Like, they could take yours because they don't have the same relationship with it, and vice versa.
I blame all the things that SHOULD be super easy and then wreck your life cause things don't run smoothly, or people don't do their job...makes us all gun shy and shocked when things just...go according to plan
I fall into that funk sometimes. Yesterday in fact. I live in western SC and we lost power for 7 days and when it came back on the heat pump didn't turn on. I thought the worst and for a week where weather only required I use heat at night I fretted over worst case scenarios. 1/
2/ I had tried simple breaker reset.. no joy. So for 9 days I fretted it was going to be terrible when I finally had a chance to diagnose the problem. And feared having to call a service and be out lots of $$$$$!
Drumroll....
It was a blown fuse only costing me $5 to repair myself.
No, I clean those little bastards first thing in the morning, every morning, because if I don't then I won't do it for three weeks because I lose my momentum lol
Cool. Did I mention that today I replaced the crappy kitchen faucet that we’ve been just kind of living with for months? Spending a big chunk of the year with almost no water pressure because I was procrastinating on a two hour job—totally normal shit 😄👍
This is a real thing in depression - 'the impossible task' - left for so long, the very leaving of it makes it more of an issue.
I have several on my todo list - I don't mean to boast dahlink, no no honestly... it just takes dedication, anyone could be like me, I'm nothing special
Didn’t cry, but I’m 53 years old, and I didn’t feel sorry for myself. Only stressed. One would think I had learned from my experience at university #nope
I do this with visits to the dentist, and when I finally get there, it is not the guy from Marathon Man asking, "Is it safe?", but a nice lady that smiles a lot and smells nice.
I could tell you exactly how to resolve that problem, but since you didn't actually ask for advice I will keep it to myself.
🤪😜😂🤣 (In my head this is very funny!)
Seriously... I'm nearly 70 and still do the same thing. I'm considering forming a procrastinator's club, but haven't got around to it. 😉
Sometimes I do that because I know it's a simple thing but I've also been taught to prioritize dilemmas accordingly so I allocate towards the biggest time sink first until the simple thing gets critical. It's understandable.
the best day of my life was when I realized "if I just sucked it up and did it right there and then, I could skip the mental self torture of thinking about for days/weeks/months". this has radically changed my life, even if it sometimes doesn't work because some shit is just "nope, don't wanna"
I feel like this happens a few times a year to almost all of us, but the pattern usually continues year after year after year and we never really learn that we can just, uhh, do the damn thing without putting it off and stressing the shit out of ourselves.
I also am deeply demand-sensitive, so if I feel like I've been assigned work against my will I'll drag my feet and piss and moan about it until even I'm sick of me
Saaame. New idea: a site along the lines of the useful "does it go bad" one, called "what if I don't". I could look up thing X that I'm nervously avoiding and see what happened to my fellow procrastinators who didn't do it.
Ratings would include "it was fine why was I even stressed?", "annoying late fees but no real harm done," and "NO DO IT NOW RIGHT NOW, LEARN FROM MY SUFFERING".
My "favorite" example was a loose doorknob that made me feel like my whole life was falling apart every time I touched it. I finally tightened it up with like two turns of a screwdriver.
I complained at a door which wouldn't close quite right for like 3 years and then finally noticed & replaced the missing straight bolt in the hinge and everything was like new again
same!! mine is one that you literally just hit a button to select the air pressure and it’ll fill the tire and automatically stop when it meets the desired pressure. easy peasy
I have a theory about this. You put it off because you're not sure how you're going to do it. My late hubs called it "background tasking." You put it in the back of your mind until you've figured it out and are ready to do it. It's healthy.
Actually that's kind of how I write! I look like I'm fucking off for eight hours and then write the thing in fifteen minutes because it's been percolating in there the whole time. I love this and I'm going to roll with it!
It’s all the things. Me too. But every once in a while one of those things takes for fucking ever and then I feel vindicated and then I dread & delay all the subsequent things even harder.
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Drumroll....
It was a blown fuse only costing me $5 to repair myself.
I was really talking about the deep-clean, which I finally did this weekend after it became embarrassingly overdue
I just finished that one and it was also embarrassingly overdue 😂
It annoys me tremendously
☹️☹️☹️
I have several on my todo list - I don't mean to boast dahlink, no no honestly... it just takes dedication, anyone could be like me, I'm nothing special
“Monumenial”
hahaha
They sabotage us every day to get those rushes.
🤪😜😂🤣 (In my head this is very funny!)
Seriously... I'm nearly 70 and still do the same thing. I'm considering forming a procrastinator's club, but haven't got around to it. 😉
Single.
Time.
🤦🏻♀️
You'd think I'd learn from this, but 🤷🏻♀️
Me arguing with the guy responsible for this behaviour and many other problems in my life:
Me cleaning anything
Me doing chores
Me going to bed
Me
most recent example for me is filling up my tires it was eating at me every time I got in the car and it was so trivial once I did it
I’ll get back to you in five minutes or five weeks
[or it’s your bday]
https://www.autozone.com/suspension-steering-tire-and-wheel/tire-repair-kit/p/slime-heavy-duty-pro-power-tire-inflator/837628_0_0
Since no one smokes in their cars anymore, this is a great use for the power outlet!
Voting and car stuff. 😁
Repeat to infinity.
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There are some strategies worth trying that eg. Jessica McCabe has shared