I do something similar. Remember that bad people use social norms against you so when you look to ask yourself "did I violate a social norm" ask yourself immediately "did the other party violate a social norm first and expect me to keep being polite"
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But even working on these things at the end of the day while I know people *may not* be speaking literally I can't be sure they aren't without being told explicitly at some point.
But it's more that I will always have a concrete interpretation in my head and it will be distressing to assume for no reason (or worse, to make myself feel better) that something else was meant