So it's normal for people to communicate in different styles, with different levels of directness. And then it's also a tool bad people use. The thing is, nobody else is ever going to be 100% certain they've got it right, either. Not even the most neurotypical person you can imagine.
That little margin of uncertainty is what lets bad people pretend they didn't say or do anything wrong and it works on pretty much everybody, not just autistic people. You're more vulnerable because you're going to miss the unsaid context, but I hope it helps to know that it's such a useful tactic
Precisely because every person who wants to act right, no matter their flavor of brain wiring, is vulnerable to thinking "surely the other person isn't meaning an impolite thing".
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