One of the weirdest fucking things in my life right now is that a non-trivial part of my support network and easily the best cishet parts of it consists of a bunch of 25-50-ish year old tenuously middle class gamer dudes. The demographics are wretched on paper. Goofy anime and military fetishism. - ThreadSky | a Reddit-style client for Bluesky

ushdubsar.bsky.social • 6 days ago

One of the weirdest fucking things in my life right now is that a non-trivial part of my support network and easily the best cishet parts of it consists of a bunch of 25-50-ish year old tenuously middle class gamer dudes. The demographics are wretched on paper. Goofy anime and military fetishism.

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ushdubsar.bsky.social•6 days ago

You know that whole thing about "have the cishets asked you how you feel about all this", etc? Yeah, I get the questions and the commiserations. There's a growing tenor of panic. One shared his accidental VR induced brush with gender dysphoria. From dudes who nerd about the cockpits of fighter jets.

ushdubsar.bsky.social•6 days ago

They aren't helping me with money, exactly, but one of them said he'll keep an eye out for a job I can do. Unprompted. I didn't ask. It's not that kind of community, and YET.

ushdubsar.bsky.social•6 days ago

So I'm kinda done giving any grace to any cis people who don't reach out. If I can get community and support from a middle aged white gamer bro from Texas or Ohio in a different class bracket on a corporate discord server, what's the excuse the I AM AN ALLY crowd has? They aren't paying me either!

ushdubsar.bsky.social•6 days ago

Only close friends, trans people, and a small handful of others have contributed. And I know some of those people are exactly as bad off as I am, I know most of the rest don't have much at all to fucking spare. And YET. Where's that ally behavior? Who's got my back? Who the fuck can I count on?

ushdubsar.bsky.social•6 days ago

If that stings, if you're cis and I haven't heard from you or received an ounce of support once since September 1st, look in the fucking mirror and then keep me from landing on the streets in a deadly cold winter. Don't you dare fake people out by calling yourself an ally while you do nothing.

ushdubsar.bsky.social•6 days ago

(If you have reached out or have thrown stuff in the pot, you're fine, unless you've been dripping crumbs into my life-and-death PayPal while sitting on six figures and/or partly vacant real estate: in which case it goes double for you, and I expect my living situation to do a swift about face.)