Just wanna say that if we’re friends, you don’t have to worry about interacting with me every single day. I’m a very low maintenance friend meaning you can live your life and we can talk every so often… and if I wanna talk to you I’ll let you know lol - ThreadSky

unknown-ghost.bsky.social • 11 days ago

Just wanna say that if we’re friends, you don’t have to worry about interacting with me every single day. I’m a very low maintenance friend meaning you can live your life and we can talk every so often… and if I wanna talk to you I’ll let you know lol

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thirdgallaher.bsky.social•11 days ago

I’ve been wanting to post something similar for a while.

This is so true. Everyone here has lives outside, or isn’t feeling like interacting much and it’s completely valid!!

imo social media has made ppl feel like they need to answer chats immediately or be online 24/7, and that’s not it

unknown-ghost.bsky.social•11 days ago

i made this post because a former mutual of mine literally cashed out and made a long ass thread about people not messaging them and whatever and it's just like... no one owes you that though. it's a crumby feeling but people do shit outside of the internet or just dont wanna talk.

thirdgallaher.bsky.social•11 days ago

Yah I understand what you mean!

I get what the other person feels too. I believe it’s more of a society issue making everyone feel like they need to constantly be “present” as to not “disappear”. At one point, I believed that too, and it wasn’t easy to change…

thirdgallaher.bsky.social•11 days ago

I truly hope ppl begin to free themselves from this belief. Social media should be fun and silly, it pains me to see how oomfs/non oomfs suffer because of societies bullshit laws

unknown-ghost.bsky.social•11 days ago

SOOOO valid Ley!!! i agree that it should be silly and fun---it's a place to meet like minded people who share interests with you!!! not to be a place of suffering over this that and the other thing :(

unknown-ghost.bsky.social•11 days ago

yeah i understand wanting to be "present," but idk if i wanna be present, i'd spam posts on here and try to talk to people? instead of hoping that someone hmu in my dms??? and then get mad when they dont??? it's no one else's job to make me feel seen other than my own. i didn't like his posts abt it

thirdgallaher.bsky.social•11 days ago

oh yeah the DMs bit is a bit uncalled for. I haven’t read the post, but personally, I don’t dm anyone unless I’m certain they’re ok with it and only when I’m really close with them, so expecting others to dm is not something I consider appropriate

unknown-ghost.bsky.social•11 days ago

if you want me to send you the post i def can! I just felt what this person was saying specifically was incredibly entitled to other people and their time/energy, especially because the people they were calling out are my moots and ik one felt really torn up abt the whole thing and didnt deserve it

unknown-ghost.bsky.social•11 days ago

it's no one's job to talk to you so you can feel good about yourself... if you're that hung up about internet strangers speaking to you than maybe you need to unplug

unknown-ghost.bsky.social•11 days ago

Just seeing stuff on my feed and guys please understand no one deserves you time and energy. Even if it’s your friends. If you’re feeling low/out of spoons/etc, you should focus on yourself.

Friendships are important, of course, but you’re important too. I’m really struggling to understand…

unknown-ghost.bsky.social•11 days ago

… this type of mindset where someone feels like they’re owed someone else’s time and energy just because they themselves are putting that work in. It’s shitty when it’s not reciprocated, but it’s never owed. If that was the case, all relationships would be transactional and they’re not.

unknown-ghost.bsky.social•11 days ago

Just wanted to make my thoughts on this situation clear. You all are valid and loved. If you want to talk to me, you can, but if you don’t and just wanna like my silly posts, that’s valid too! Not all friendships are the same, but they’re friendships nonetheless!

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