every few weeks i see tweets about how you should never date someone with bpd and it makes me sad. making people feel bad for their disorders just encourages them to spiral, give them the space needed to understand themselves, and hopefully they become a better lover or friend - ThreadSky

saiwa.bsky.social • 71 days ago

every few weeks i see tweets about how you should never date someone with bpd and it makes me sad. making people feel bad for their disorders just encourages them to spiral, give them the space needed to understand themselves, and hopefully they become a better lover or friend

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theladylazarus.bsky.social•70 days ago

I appreciate this . I’ve been rejected because I’m bipolar, and it really does make you feel so awful about something outside of your control. So thank you for saying these kind words .

csteeves91.bsky.social•71 days ago

Patience is important in any relationship, and yes granted you may need more for someone with bpd if anything the good times are really really good. People often forget there are ups and downs in any relationship, just might be lower and higher than usual.

conperi.bsky.social•47 days ago

i used to feel very lost and struggle hard when i would search online for support networks or articles and every result was people explaining why you should avoid anyone with xyz mental health issue. i have thought about that on a regular basis since my teens. i'm almost 40 now.

saiwa.bsky.social•71 days ago

healthy boundaries are important and someone else’s poor behaviour isn’t something you should tolerate forever, but patience goes such a long way when you have relationships with people who have personality disorders. educate yourself instead of fighting fire with fire

saiwa.bsky.social•71 days ago

i wasn’t a nice person when i was undiagnosed, coupled with trauma that never healed. therapy felt like boot camp but i was determined to learn how my brain operated and fix the relationships around me. took years but i’m the happiest i’ve ever been, you’ll get there too 🩶

dluthor20.bsky.social•46 days ago

You're right

morriganenvt.com•71 days ago

I'm working hard at it & it breaks my heart that some people think the years of trying to better yourself doesn't matter compared to the three letters tied to a mental health condition. We're doing what we can and that MATTERS. (but also fuck my ex that tried to make my bpd all about teasing him.)

nohvah00.bsky.social•71 days ago

I'm glad you were able to get the help you need Spoops, and that you're doing better.

dancingviru.bsky.social•71 days ago

it really is frustrating seeing ignorant, misinforming absolutes like those tweets.

I think we should learn how to introspect what personal boundaries we have to hold back our shortcomings,

while educating ourselves on other people's struggles, before being intentional w/ things like dating.

ajordanxiii.bsky.social•71 days ago

I have a friend who is going through something similar and has been for years but she's getting there and making progress because the people who care about her stick around and try to work with her not against her. 🫂

ambassadorkong.bsky.social•53 days ago

This is a very healthy attitude. The ignorant are going to hate regardless, but the people worth having in your life and going to put in the effort. It might take some time, but you'll be happier for it.

xenogil180.bsky.social•71 days ago

Such a good message!

skaldpdx.bsky.social•54 days ago

The mental health stigma continues. I got into it with someone just the other day for accusing Elon of "unhinged bipolar behavior", and he got mad when I asked if he was a psychiatrist or had any grounds to be making a diagnosis like that.

loveree.bsky.social•54 days ago

It really bothers me that otherwise good-hearted people can be so blind about this.

skaldpdx.bsky.social•54 days ago

Ableism and Misogyny are just as much a problem on the left as they are on the right, and even homophobia (things like joking about how Trump and Elon or Trump and Putin are lovers) is rampant.

loveree.bsky.social•54 days ago

I am fighting this bull about bipolar every day but I’m sitting the one about feminizing Musk’s name out (even though I cringe and want to ask people how they think trans would feel when they see that.) it’s all careless and thoughtless.2

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