Discomfort is not harm. Internalize that.
Discomfort is not harm, and if you're made uncomfortable by the work of a total stranger who does not know you exist, you can just process on your own and move on. You do not need to make it anyone's "fault" and no one needs to be "held accountable" for it.
Discomfort is not harm, and if you're made uncomfortable by the work of a total stranger who does not know you exist, you can just process on your own and move on. You do not need to make it anyone's "fault" and no one needs to be "held accountable" for it.
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If you dislike something or it makes you uncomfortable, that’s okay! But you don’t need to let the creator know. You don’t need to let anyone know, honestly. You can just ignore it and move on with your life. Fandom is about enjoying the things you like, not bashing the things you hate.
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Discomfort =/= Harm
Discomfort =/= Unsafe
Entire cultures have lived in single room buildings with multiple generations and no one from those places has ever come out traumatized about the concept of parents fucking.
Nobody gets to choose how people interpret the things you make, if you have a problem with people reacting to your work "incorrectly", maybe it'd help to turn off the comments and move on.
Expecting every single audience member to curb their bad opinions forever, or learning to take the bad opinions in stride?
Most people within fandom agree that unsolicited concrit is a no-go. It's mostly outsiders who >
Sure, some folks are beyond help, but that's not the case for the majority.
well, at the very least they're debatable. and given the tendency for a system to have more power than an individual i would prefer to err on the side of accommodating
I mean, just look up the damn word? That's how the rest of us learned (before smartphones, even).
You're right that we don't need to give attention to works, but we also shouldn't give attention to those posting negative opinions merely to gain engagement.
What do you recommend for how to deal with those antis?
Inevitably, one of them will go too far and the legal system will get involved. Until then, we just do our best.
I’m a big fan of blocking.
It's so disappointing that people just run back to their comfort shows and predictable arcs ya know?
I cannot dictate how people have to feel or read about a pic, but the answer is not attacking the author/artist, is blocking them, not supporting their art and move on.
We didn't get our pitchforks out, though. We just talked about the flick over coffee and smokes afterwards (it was the late 80s) and that was that.
Your position was a bit black/white and I wanted to clarify for the people (such as myself) who have things like cPTSD over prolonged discomfort and misery :3
There is no situation in which you are being actively harmed by an artist when you choose to engage with their work.
But you do you. Obviously, you don't see an issue, and no amount of work on my part will change that.
Pleasant day to you.
Please don't remove context to twist the point.
(And then there's the crossing-boundaries kind of discomfort, but that's a different thing)
And yeah, it's not pleasant. But it's never the author's fault.
Also, exposure therapy works. One trigger is gone now and the other barely has the energy to lift its head thanks to my confronting them in fiction for a time.
And I have to say that as a queer, black, autistic individual who makes people uncomfortable /by just standing there/....please reevaluate that.
That person would be an asshole, but them going out of their way to make you uncomfortable still isn't necessarily /harm/.
My example is: once I was on the subway late and night and there was>
I have sensory processing issues. They were LOUD and I was struggling, even in a bit of pain. They were being loud and extra on purpose, yes>
If they can't understand after taking a moment to think about that, they might be wearing blinders. Likely with a response about how "it isn't the same thing".
This is because they will, of course, disagree, oppose the very concept of distress tolerance, and thus begin the ultimate discourse.
You should examine BOTH.
It’s an emotional reaction and a subjective opinion. It isn’t based on fact so it doesn’t count as valid critique