But with my long term chastity i noticed that my sub mindset need more attention and wants to get order or wants to ask permission for something like unlocking, cumming or want to do assplay. Because that need isn't really filled in that way, when i dom now i often feel need to ask more what (5/9) - ThreadSky

verosfetish.me • 4 days ago

But with my long term chastity i noticed that my sub mindset need more attention and wants to get order or wants to ask permission for something like unlocking, cumming or want to do assplay. Because that need isn't really filled in that way, when i dom now i often feel need to ask more what (5/9)

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verosfetish.me•4 days ago

the sub wants or also feel jealous of not being the sub, haha😂. This frustrated me a wrong way because now i can't enjoy my dom time and apparently not get the desired sub time that i also need.

So the last few weeks i've been debating and talking about it with friends, what to do. (6/9)

verosfetish.me•4 days ago

Right now, there is not jet a dom that is my style, with time and energy, that i can build up the dom/sub relationship i really want and that is okey, it will come when the time is there.

Because of the cage it holds me back on my dom side, i've more subs i can meet up with and i love that (7/9)

verosfetish.me•4 days ago

So that lays out the question should i stop chastity for now and focus more on my dom side for now, with here and there subbing for a dom. Or should i embrace the sub side? There is not really a right answer, but i love to hear your thoughts and ideas.

For now i will be locked until darklands(8/9)

verosfetish.me•4 days ago

By the amazing @switchdiesel.bsky.social . Maybe after that i take a break, i dont know, really depends on how i feel. And what the situation is. Any ways thanks for reading, this was for me intressesting to write and think about it in the same time💚 (9/9)

jonasiason.bsky.social•4 days ago

In my experience, there's a difference between "being a switch" and a fetish/practice being sub or dom "coded".

So basically, what I hear you say is that when you switch to dominant, you don't feel comfortable with chastity because it's sub coded for you.

Sometimes, that can't be helped.

verosfetish.me•4 days ago

Uhm almost. I dont believe in chastity is only for subs or that is coded for me. Yes mainly subs wear it. But i've in the past that i could without problem dominate with chastity on, what has changed is that i dont get dominated lately, so my sub desires build up i think. If that makes sence😇

subboyforhung.com•4 days ago

imo you answered yourself already: "really depends on how [you] feel". that's the first thing that should matter in the situation. you seem great as a dom , as much as youre probably also great as a sub. what matters is how you feel. if you look like you're genuinely enjoying yourself, so will we.

cm-for-cashfag.bsky.social•3 days ago

Just try. Guess u will find out very quickly whether you're happy with a dom role or not. No one can tell u what to do, no one is in ur place. U have to find out for urself. There are a lot of switchers, so why not beeing both. I can't imagine for myself. But maybe its ok 4 you to live both worlds

subboyforhung.com•4 days ago

Im also struggling a bit. not as much directly because of the cage but more because I have 24/7 cravings as a sub & also feel like Id like to own a sub. so far I havnt found neither the dom nor the sub. but what I noticed is that I tend to overthink situations and not focus enough on how **I feel**.

verosfetish.me•4 days ago

Aaahw cutie, thanks for your message!! Yeah i agree on your point, luckily i will also like myself as much unlocked as locked. Often hard to feel what you desire when something like a cage makes you more submisive and also thinking about the desire to get used, for example. then the lines get blurry

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