Ohhh, this hits hard. But couldn't count the number, apologising for overreactions, mistakes, omissions.
Being a full time sole parent, plus growing up without a dad myself, I felt like I was making it up being dad almost every day. Didn't always get it right, and needed to apologise often 😔
Countless. But they were more like I misunderstood, "NO DAD! THE KIND WITH XXXXX!)
"Oh. SORRY! Of course I should know that."
Then raise my hand and he would scurry. It was kinda funny watching someone that had never seen me do it before eyes get wide.
We were man-boys vs mom.
Often. Most days. “Sorry” was a word like “love”. Used freely and frequently.
My alcoholic, violent father and emotionally manipulative mother? Never. Either word.
Not once.
My approach was to give my children space but they knew I would help when they needed me, and not take things too seriously, especially minor crises, and laugh and joke a lot. My wife takes small things too seriously, as much as I tried to stop her, she did a lot of harm and still does.
More than I could count. And no, my parents never apologized to me, either, even though they would have had reason to do so several times a day, every day.
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I wouldn't want to expose my kids to myself.
Being a full time sole parent, plus growing up without a dad myself, I felt like I was making it up being dad almost every day. Didn't always get it right, and needed to apologise often 😔
Daily
You little shit questioning my authority!
I otta smack y
Whoops
Practicing my lines
Sorry
Attempting to counter my own upbringing which contained zero apologies ever from my parents.
I do something with apologizing for once a week on average so roughly 5,600 times to date.
If we're living, we're making mistakes.
"Oh. SORRY! Of course I should know that."
Then raise my hand and he would scurry. It was kinda funny watching someone that had never seen me do it before eyes get wide.
We were man-boys vs mom.
My alcoholic, violent father and emotionally manipulative mother? Never. Either word.
Not once.
Three times before they left for school :-)
Mostly me apologising for telling them to do something when they had already commenced it.
In my defense they were upstairs, me down stairs, and being slow about it.
Thankyou!