Can I tell you something that no one likes to talk about? Some of the BEST people at getting love...are the worst people. Well, those who are the most natural, anyway. An essay. (1/7) - ThreadSky

heather-aka-nookie.bsky.social • 90 days ago

Can I tell you something that no one likes to talk about?

Some of the BEST people at getting love...are the worst people. Well, those who are the most natural, anyway.

An essay. (1/7)

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heather-aka-nookie.bsky.social•90 days ago

Because of the way they are, they aren’t as worried about really getting in there and doing the scary stuff. They don't have the fear of loss that the rest of us have. Or the same fear of rejection.

Sure, they hate to lose, but that's different, innit?

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heather-aka-nookie.bsky.social•90 days ago

The challenge is that when you actually have human feelings, you can’t help but worry that you might get hurt (or hurt someone), so that becomes a semi-conscious decision to hold back. To play it safe.

That turns good people with the best intentions for their others - into AWFUL PARTNERS.

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heather-aka-nookie.bsky.social•90 days ago

Afraid to speak up, afraid to take the chance, afraid to move on when it's best for both of you...

AFRAID.

And so they give more and get less. Put in more effort for less love.

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heather-aka-nookie.bsky.social•90 days ago

Fun fact, there's a study I came across a couple decades ago that shows that the most popular kids in high school were the ones who were able to lie the best...

https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/1999/12/991214072623.htm

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heather-aka-nookie.bsky.social•90 days ago

"Among all ages and genders, those adolescents with the highest level of social competence were the most talented liars.

They were able to verbalize untruths while controlling their nonverbal behavior, including facial expression, vocal pitch and mannerisms, posture, and eye contact."

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heather-aka-nookie.bsky.social•90 days ago

Which tracks, right?

Some good people try that path out, and often either hate themselves or become bad people.

That's one option.

I prefer another—saying "Fuck the rules," choosing my own path, being radically me, flaws and all, and finding the people who want that more than...lies.

You?

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