Healing is personal and many think it's someone else's job to heal us. Jumping from relationship to relationship without taking the time to simply concentrate on themselves and heal while alone. Too many broken people with other broken people wondering why their relationships are broken... Thoughts? - ThreadSky

godhatesgoth.bsky.social • 7 days ago

Healing is personal and many think it's someone else's job to heal us. Jumping from relationship to relationship without taking the time to simply concentrate on themselves and heal while alone. Too many broken people with other broken people wondering why their relationships are broken... Thoughts?

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moomanda.bsky.social•7 days ago

I do think you have to do the work but it doesn’t have to be when you’re alone. Broken people can still have relationships and work on themselves separately. I think it’s more about being self aware, identifying you may have some issues and being willing to address them. Doesn’t have to be alone.

godhatesgoth.bsky.social•7 days ago

Ok, i can understand that. Might be easier for some to concentrate on themselves while alone and yet others may find it easier to bounce between that and being comfortable in a relationship. Thanks for sharing, Amanda, I appreciate it.

moomanda.bsky.social•7 days ago

Am nerdy psychologist and big fan of therapy!

moomanda.bsky.social•7 days ago

Oh absolutely some people definitely should have time alone, but the act of running away or avoidance can be part of the problem and being in a supportive safe partnership is actually part of the healing as afraid of intimacy, vulnerable or see closeness as a loss of identity. It’s a complex thing.

godhatesgoth.bsky.social•7 days ago

Or, I suppose you could get lucky and find someone that is able to actually assist you too. Interesting. 🖤

moomanda.bsky.social•7 days ago

Absolutely, support or assist rather than someone who thinks (or who you think) will heal or save you.

godhatesgoth.bsky.social•7 days ago

My second wife went from relationship to relationship with mental health issues intact and no space between. It almost seemed like a means of avoidance.

dangerjane.bsky.social•7 days ago

I did that, then I got therapy. My parents uprooted my life at 17 and left me to handle it on my own, and my 20's paid the price. I'm sorry to the people I hurt back then

godhatesgoth.bsky.social•7 days ago

I have so many regrets myself.

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