Even recounted that to a therapist(who happened to be Jazz Jenning's aunt lol) and she said, without pausing, "It's because they don't see you as a threat"
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So anyways, three months into my third attempt at transitioning, my ex and I go to an event nearby. And the difference was... Crushing. Before, her and I had no problems at these spaces and events even when we appeared to be, for all intents and purposes, a straight couple.
But this time, there were looks, unease, and a refusal by anyone to talk to us. Well, talk to me, several women talked to her when I went to the restroom. We ended up leaving dejected, and she had to comfort me the rest of the night.
this is unfortunately my standard experience. i try not to go to lesbian bars anymore really if i can help it. at the beginning of my transition when i felt a zeal like i deserved to belong, i tried much harder to acclimate to what is an otherwise hostile and unwelcoming environment for trans women.
Fast forward to around a year ago, at a different, more regular event I'd been to several times by this point. She and I looked, well, like any other metalhead masc/pastel goth femme couple you'd see around. Night and day difference. People talking to both of us all night.
I ended up in a long and lovely conversation with an old butch black lady who was there with her wife. We sat with them the rest of the night, and it was great!
Except! Except for the nasty, nagging thought in the back of my head, of "Would she be anywhere near this conversational and kind towards me if she knew I was trans?"
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