You know you are in a bad relationship, when their first move is to cut you off from your friends. Just sayin’. - ThreadSky

njbbari3.bsky.social • 22 days ago

You know you are in a bad relationship, when their first move is to cut you off from your friends.

Just sayin’.

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Lost a friend to a guy who did this. I was the last friend in our group to hold on but eventually he got rid of me too. Then he started on her marriage. People like that know what they're doing and they are terrifying.

gayfabfourfan.bsky.social•21 days ago

Very true, but note this could be used against someone who’s trying to keep their partner or spouse COVID-safe from friends or family members who don’t take precautions.

kbcaldwell.bsky.social•21 days ago

Valid point, but not physically getting together with friends and family isn’t the same as being cut off from them.

gayfabfourfan.bsky.social•20 days ago

True.

njbbari3.bsky.social•21 days ago

On reflection… I don’t actually think it’s healthy to force spouses to change their habits even regarding C19 safety.

Ideally this should be a meeting of minds… but I know it’s not an ideal world, and one spouses life may be at stake. 😟

gayfabfourfan.bsky.social•20 days ago

Agreed. Actually, now that you mention it, I wonder how many partners are “forced” to take precautions. I haven’t heard of that scenario actually occurring.

gayfabfourfan.bsky.social•20 days ago

For couples who do take precautions, far more common I think is initially one partner tends to lead the way & the other then is made aware of the science & follows suit. That’s the case with my husband & me (and I’m very grateful).

roguetime.bsky.social•21 days ago

I’ve been talking about this. Textbook narcissistic abuse cycle. He hits us and then makes it all better and we have no one to go crying to because he’s isolated us.

just-ebeans.bsky.social•22 days ago

Speaking from personal experience (with minimal trauma dumping), your friends are only just the beginning.

Your family will be the next target.

It won’t stop until they’ve successfully isolated you.

It’s easier to recognize when they refuse to elaborate why or get angry when questioned.

rainbreeze.bsky.social•22 days ago

Yes!! Is the anger and game-playing when questioned that I'm thinking is the huge indicator.

Everyone makes mistakes. Everyone does stupid things. Everyone has inappropriate reactions sometimes. What the person does when it's time to repair says **everything**.

lilumultipass.bsky.social•22 days ago

I get what you are saying... AKA our longtime allies and biggest trading partners. Aside from the prices, will the tariffs affect travel I wonder?

peggyfrompa.bsky.social•21 days ago

jorammutenge.com•21 days ago

The problem is, once feelings take over, even this red flag becomes invisible.

aimze.bsky.social•21 days ago

Truth

tara4711.bsky.social•21 days ago

Can be applied to every aspect of life.

ianthecovington.bsky.social•20 days ago

🇺🇸🇨🇦

rainbreeze.bsky.social•22 days ago

Ah!! Yes. Yes you are so right.

My running hypothesis right now is that narcissistic abuse dynamics we encounter in small systems (a couple, a friendship, a narc coworker or boss) show parallels in larger societal systems, such as companies, churches, nations etc.

I think I might be right.

njbbari3.bsky.social•22 days ago

I’m not talking about my hubby… I’m talking about the inexplicable picking of fights on a much, much larger stage.

njbbari3.bsky.social•22 days ago

But also true in the literal sense.

amber2024.bsky.social•21 days ago

I went from a situation where he did this, even putting me in complete isolation from others, to my country doing this to me with Covid, to now my family’s country doing this to their entire country. Abusers are always the same on any scale.

bestdogmom.bsky.social•21 days ago

There are so many people that are in bad relationships that you are probably not going to have many people who first think of world relationships. But that is ok. You start where you are.

rlx.neocities.org•22 days ago

Cultlike relationship

dawnameeks.bsky.social•21 days ago

Well said!

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