First, you are wonderful. 💓
I was mostly frustrated that I got so instantly hot with anger that I wasn't as effective. If I'd paused for a few extra seconds, I think I could have changed the culture in that room. Instead, I allowed her to stay angry and defensive. A job half done, you know?
Anger is such a fantastic force for change! It shifts boundaries so quickly and effectively. Sure, it can be nice to pause and go even deeper before we act, and cultivating awareness makes that easier, but the cry for justice can’t be stopped! You don’t have to take responsibility for her feelings.
I hear you! It reminds me of the wonderful book, "Love and Rage" by Lama Rod Owens.
Her feelings are her responsibility, for sure. Also, the consequences of my actions are mine. Do I want to express my feelings, or do I want change? I want change, and that only comes with the power of the pause.
The marmalade was very tart and so delicious. My kids’ eyes made pinwheels when he tried it.
Here’s to making lasting change that makes room for all of us and all our parts!
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I was mostly frustrated that I got so instantly hot with anger that I wasn't as effective. If I'd paused for a few extra seconds, I think I could have changed the culture in that room. Instead, I allowed her to stay angry and defensive. A job half done, you know?
Her feelings are her responsibility, for sure. Also, the consequences of my actions are mine. Do I want to express my feelings, or do I want change? I want change, and that only comes with the power of the pause.
Here’s to making lasting change that makes room for all of us and all our parts!