Trans woman who thinks it's so obvious she's trans that she never bothers to clarify it out loud Vs trans woman who's getting increasingly offended by this random cis girl's authoritative attitude towards trans experiences
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In 2010s when I ran the Trans March for Pride Toronto there were some complaints made to some of our marshalls that a cis woman shouldn't be in charge, and we had to gently correct a few people.
So I started wearing a trans flag ring or a pin or whatever all of the time, full flag cape at events.
This funny premise brought to you by my dense ass seeing a hot lady at one of my first trans support groups and going "wow so cool of her to show up to be an ally" in my head
They emailed me after I'd been going a while and told me the first time they saw me, they thought I was someone's [cis] wife come to maybe get someone into trouble 😱
Second time was post transition, at work, a new employee, turned out to be trans (!).
While blending like this has advantages, of course! it gets frustrating at the weirdest times. I find some of us out in the world and I smile like this is our moment of solidarity, this! But I'm invisible even the occasions I remember a few pieces with our first colours.
I don’t know if I’ll ever stop being amazed that I “pass,” it seems so glaringly obvious to me that I’m trans. On a work trip this week & had a couple of nice long conversations with other women at dinner, came away feeling weird/guilty that I didn’t out myself, tho it wouldn’t have been relevant.
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So I started wearing a trans flag ring or a pin or whatever all of the time, full flag cape at events.
I had the weird experience of sort of being the former on both sides of transition and I...did not like it.
I pulled out all the stops to go to a CD/TS/DQ social club, voice and all, in the 90s. It got me stared at on a day I was already nervous as hell.
I found out why a year later.
And yes, my eyebrows recovered from all that plucking over my public desistance years. Why did I think that was okay? 😄
Second time was post transition, at work, a new employee, turned out to be trans (!).
An ally sent her my way after she started...
I accused her for a year of obviously having been able to tell.
Turned out I hurt her feelings calling her a liar like that.
Stan the dolls ♥️