I understand the desire to want to be part of some "cool kids table". Especially when you're young and upcoming, but more often than not, I see it turn into a "if I befriend these people, I will receive X." mindset which rubs me the wrong way.
And more often than not, it's very noticeable.
And more often than not, it's very noticeable.
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Saw a post where someone was grousing about "NSFW artist cliques" which is always a funny kind of sentiment to see in the wild because 99% of the time it means someone has observed that a group of creators are on good terms & have admired each other's work for a long time & decided this is Nefarious
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on the inside, it's less clique-y and just... people forming friend groups because their interests and fetishes line up together.
when i was younger i had the mindset you mentioned, but grew to realise there's no reason to force yourself to fit in with everyone else when you can just be yourself and still be accepted.
Personally these days it's nice to just casually like people's stuff instead of commenting much / tryina go deeper lol
Meanwhile, communities organically form and connections are made through similar genuine interests.
worse year over year too, swear this wasn't the case back in the tumblr days
think that shifted around 2015 with /d/ and /h/ drawthreads
I think it FEELS worse because its the internet, its always visible
if you want to be trusted, then be trustworthy
I'm not saying people SHOULDN'T protect themselves and their friends from bad actors, I'm saying that it's disingenuous to pretend that there aren't equally insecure people that WANT to gatekeep unnecessarily
It’s good that you’re able to notice it though, so that you can pick out those people.
Because two popular people can do a very minor interaction with each other and ppl will assume they're great friends or something cuz they collabed once.
That, and trying to infiltrate that “clique” is super off-putting to everyone lol
Also feels awful to talk to someone that is nice to you and progressively it´s ovbious that they´re trying to get stuff from you ;;
Obviously the people publicly complaining that popular people won't notice them are just entitled, but I wonder how much comes from frustration.
For my part I guess the most rough summary I can give is "I learned I just had to give up"