I produce a podcast called Grief in the Raw & we are gearing up for season 2. This has been such a black safe space for the host and guests to talk about those tough subjects and it has changed my perspective of grief. Would totally appreciate it if you subscribed! https://youtube.com/@griefintheraw?si=XOGNVzM89Dhtqnxl
This. It’s a superpower to lean into uncomfortable feelings and feel them all the way to their end. Men especially don’t do this. We tend to remain stunted boys until we blow up our lives, and everyone close to us is hurt by the shrapnel.
And I think this is largely because many of us weren’t given the space to emote as children. So that fix your face, stop crying shit follows is into adulthood.
I was raised in Trinidad till 14, where it was common for caregivers to say things like, "If you want to cry so badly, I will give you something to cry about!" & even now, my dad will often instinctively try to police my expression of strong feelings, as if I was not a therapist for whole decades! 🤡
I feel this. I get everyone grieves or copes with sadness differently, but I have such a hard time doing it alone. I’m desperate for closeness and presence when I’m sad but most of the folks in my circle are solo-cope types. I hate being alone with my thoughts 🫠
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