Depends how much you like them, if it's someone you really care about call them on it and see what's going on, if it's someone you don't know well or don't really have that much of an attachment to after a couple of chances don't waste any more time on them and demote them to acquaintance status
Depends on the reasons that they give for ghosting but in general my limit is 5. After that, it's better if we go our separate ways. There's no point in keeping a one-sided friendship.
Depends for me on the person. I have a good buddy I've known for years who I'll hear from almost daily for a month then 3months without a word and this has happened multiple times lol but we still friends so just depends on who it is and if they really ever felt like a friend.
I don't know. I care about someone, well, love them, but they don't seem to want to meet up. They claim they do, and we have in the past, but they seem to always be busy spending time with everyone else, including other friends, leaving 0 time for her and I to spend together...
Too varied, but I eventually bring it up and if it doesn't change it's bye bye time. Not like blocked/cut-off, but I stop relying on that person and stop holding them in high esteem.
It kinda depends. Sometimes they’ve had actual reasons why the disappeared and were not there. Other people decided it was a good idea to make a separate group chat and avoid me instead of talking about what I was doing to annoy them while I was oblivious. But usually around 3 times.
Honestly? It depends on your friendship with them and how your dynamic is with them. All you can really do is decide on if this is the line you want to draw. It helps to communicate the offending party about it, But if this feels like your only recourse, it might be best to decide decide now.
In the end, you decide if this is worth chasing them down or not. You dictate these things, not them. Because your time is worthwhile, people should respect that. ^~^
Some friends I will grant multiple times as just live busy lives. They are really close friends and they tend to get back to me when they can. For friends that I am not as close to I will grant 1-2 times given good reason. If it continues I stop initiating. No point in wasting my time or energy.
When i was younger, i was CLUELESS about that shit. I stayed friends with someone for years after they clearly did not want to hang out with me anymore and would make up excuses all the time, and when we did hang out, she would be so bored and uninterested lol
Real talk, I currently am a sub lead of a close community rn. I have some member that ghost every week when we attend our online class, I have to approach them regardless their response. Because I love them to grow even more. I genuinely do. Some cases, reasons > feelings. Godspeed defense ☺
everyone situation is different & I lack your context but imo ghosting can be easily misinterpreted.
its much harder to be understanding that some rly just do be busy, stressed out, or anxious even. Unless they are actively avoiding you or switching up their energy around you id say keep at it :>
depends on the person. I know ppl that ghost until they want something. but I also know ppl with some form of neurodivergence and they just talk to you when they are in the mood to talk again after not speaking for months. two different cases.
Honestly I'd love to have some great advice for you but Honestly I have no idea I'm way to nice but I guess as long ad when they do talk there engaged and it feels like they care than I wouldn't fully give up on it or anything cause I have a lot of friends who just don't text much
If it's truly ghosting, twice. If they're just neurodivergent and don't keep in contact or pay attention to messages normally because adhd or whatnot, I might be more lenient.
Depends on the reasoning and how many times it happens. I tend to just forget to message someone and end up thinking they never replied to what I didn't send, when it was in fact my fault LMAO
honestly, I think most i've done is like five times, then I give up, no bad blood though to be honest, just wish they'd tell me they don't really feel the vibe but I know it can be awkward
I tend to sometimes hold on to hope that they may respond, I know some people get busy but if I am legit ghosted I don't know what to do usually, it usually is quite disheartening.
I've been there. For me it was 3 but that was because I found out they made a new social media profile, then added everyone we knew in common except me. Idk how she didn't think I would find it but it hurt to find.
I tend to try and be understanding to my own detriment but I get told a lot "we'll figure out a time to play games soon" or planning something and then cancelled last minute to them go hang out with others and I get it but it'd be nice to not have it happen
for me it depends on a couple of things: are they someone who will eventually respond and just sometimes goes quiet? or are they someone who just disappears and then never replies? i would only consider one of those a ghost, and tbh after 3-4 attempts at reaching out i figure if they can reach out.
That's a tricky one for me. I'm the type that when someone stops taking to me for a long time, I assumed they no longer want to be friends. Then I'll get all excited when they come back out of the blue just to end up ghosting me again shortly after
I dunno.
I don't really know if I'm being ghosted or not. Because I'm just really bad at communication.
I can hang out with someone, not see or hear from them for months, and it's like I saw'em last week. And I don't reach out, because I don't notice.
I've never given up on a friendship. I'll slow down how often I reach out to them sometimes, but whether it's been three weeks or three years, whenever I do get to spend time with them again we always just pick up where we left off.
It takes more times than I'd like to admit
I give a fair chance before finally giving up though. If it's too consistent (even if it isn't personal) then I'm done
It's hard to say. Ultimately depends on the friendship status. Good friend that I talk to weekly, I would personally give them a few outs because I do care for them but I will set a limit and make sure they know they can't be pulling this type of shit.
Depends. if it’s obvious that person is active with other people after 3-4 times I say okay whatever. But I could go months to years without hearing from someone and still consider them a friend.
Personally, too often, usually it goes back to how long we've been friends and I give leeway. But eventually, it fixes itself because the friendship turns into a ghost.
I'd say three times but it would be weird for me to say that as me and all of my friends won't talk to one another for weeks/months and then reach out and go "hey man how are you?"
It may just be our dynamic, though, and not something everyone can do.
If there's still communication and we can just never hang out, I usually just consider them less close rather than ending the friendship. Life's tough.
But if they're only reaching out at the last minute (or not at all) to cancel... ehh, I usually just head out.
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Could have so much time if they just communicated, but oh well. Hope you figure things out FeFe!
relationships (including friendships) is a two way street :)
I put there might be a reason to it in the beginning because sometimes its worth it to put more effort.
i used to feel/think a friend i cared for a lot, didnt care about me as they were always too busy or never initiated...
Just had to remind myself to respect that theyre busy with their work & be flexible to their schedule rather than my own and now we talk way more! 😁
its much harder to be understanding that some rly just do be busy, stressed out, or anxious even. Unless they are actively avoiding you or switching up their energy around you id say keep at it :>
like if someone doesn’t want a friendship with me, i just want them to be clear about it instead of being such time wasters
worst of all is if they ghost most of the time but send the v occasional short response, it gets old fast 🥹
I tend to try and be understanding to my own detriment but I get told a lot "we'll figure out a time to play games soon" or planning something and then cancelled last minute to them go hang out with others and I get it but it'd be nice to not have it happen
I ghost friends unintentionally all the time (ADHD brain here) not really a one size fits all answer here. :(
First time cause maybe they didn't see the msg.
Second time, makes me sure of it
But if you can tell it's malicious or purposeful, or they're not apologetic, cut em off ✋
I don't really know if I'm being ghosted or not. Because I'm just really bad at communication.
I can hang out with someone, not see or hear from them for months, and it's like I saw'em last week. And I don't reach out, because I don't notice.
I give a fair chance before finally giving up though. If it's too consistent (even if it isn't personal) then I'm done
It may just be our dynamic, though, and not something everyone can do.
But if they're only reaching out at the last minute (or not at all) to cancel... ehh, I usually just head out.
Which was a lot...
They usually say no but it's good to ask. It lets them know you're there for them.
Unless one of my friends specifically asks me to stop messaging them I assume they're just busy.