Seems like there’s a core tension sometimes between “do this thing that is somewhat inconvenient to you to signal that you love me” and “you requesting/expecting/demanding this inconvenient thing signals that you don’t care about my inconvenience, ergo me.”
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"If giving to charity is good, then that means demanding that people give to charity must be good. But forcing people to do things is bad, so giving to charity MUST be bad."