Need some advice on an awkward situation... 🧵(1/3) I don't like being touched by people unless asked. HUGE sensory no-no doe me. Someone, however, keeps randomly touching my shoulders or back in conversation, or while I'm trying to work, etc... - ThreadSky

sharkpacasaur.bsky.social • 1 day ago

Need some advice on an awkward situation... 🧵(1/3)

I don't like being touched by people unless asked. HUGE sensory no-no doe me. Someone, however, keeps randomly touching my shoulders or back in conversation, or while I'm trying to work, etc...

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lotusenta.gay•22 hours ago

Having been in this situation, sometimes physical defense is the only thing people like this will listen to. I cannot handle people touching me without consent, and if they keep doing it after the second time saying now, they will get slapped, punched, or elbowed and told fucking enough.

lotusenta.gay•22 hours ago

I know it seems mean and I know there's a risk of getting into trouble, but asking nice obviously isn't working, and reporting it might also not work. You may need to physically assert yourself.

sharkpacasaur.bsky.social•1 day ago

(2/3)
I hate it. I've directly said several times now, "Please do not touch me. That makes me uncomfortable." They've acknowledged and apologized for it, but they keep doing it. Perhaps without thinking about it, or perhaps intentional. I don't know.

sharkpacasaur.bsky.social•1 day ago

(3/3) I really don't wanna be a dick and yell at them or report them to teachers because I feel like it's probably a small issue. Nevertheless, it really bothers me. What do I do? 😣

liftedpixel.net•1 day ago

it's not a small issue and they will probably have to hear NO TOUCHING from someone with seniority to take it seriously

do consider reporting!

sharkpacasaur.bsky.social•1 day ago

Thank you. I've been trying to figure out how to do so if I were to. The class is so small that I don't think anonymity would be a thing. It would be 100% obvious it was me reporting (which makes it more intimidating, tbh). My head is going in circles over imaginary repercussions of the situation.

liftedpixel.net•23 hours ago

that's def why i said consider
i know reality will make it harder to act on because retaliation is real

chances are good it will escalate if they not registering your request as important

it really sucks to be put in this kind of situation

weisseningblitz.bsky.social•22 hours ago

I'd say your only options at this point are going to the teachers or leveling their ass with a frying pan. I know some people are wired to be more touchy feely, but you've made your preference known and they won't stop. They're in the FO stage of FAFO.

weisseningblitz.bsky.social•22 hours ago

I don't know how your class pacing goes, either, but the last resort would be to make sure they're not scheduled with you in future courses. Understandably this might be harder to do if it's only one class track at a time.

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