We’ve been socialized to believe that something being a surprise somehow makes it more special/meaningful - but WHY? Wouldn’t having an honest curious conversation about how someone would like to be celebrated and then following through on their wishes be the most meaningful?
(Yes, there is a needless surprise party situation creating mild drama in my family right now and my “can’t we just ask her exactly what she wants and then show her that we care by doing that thing?” plea is being mostly ignored)
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