The “And Being Appreciated For Doing So” is also a HUGE part of this. Cis men, as a generalization (apologies to all the decent guys out there!) demand to be RECOGNIZED and FAWNED OVER as Heroes, Protectors, Saviours, and Providers, irregardless of the degree to which they actually do those things…
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The thing here is that it’s true… cis men DO obsessively fantasize about being heroes… BUT what’s pertinent is that they want these fantasies only on THEIR narrow terms: they always fantasize about “being a hero” by means of *violence*, often an after-the-fact violence of *vengeance*. Or by…
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It’s ALL about the egoistical fantasy. It’s ALL about wanting to maintain an idea of themselves as Powerful and Badass and Not To Be Fucked With. And has NOTHING to do…
People who are centering others don’t demand recognition and appreciation and gratitude for it!
To say nothing about how they don’t insist they’re only willing to do it through violent, ego-inflating paths, never through…
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Men? If you want to be heroes, providers, supporters, etc then GET OFF THE COUCH, OF STOP FANTASIZING ABOUT BEING LIAM NEESON IN TAKEN, AND ACTUALLY DO SOMETHING TO HELP YOUR FAMILY.