it really is a profound testament to the power of transition that we’re all facing genocide and you’d be hard pressed to find one of us among millions who regrets coming out
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I don't regret it. Still very much in the process, and not many people know, but any pushback I get as they learn strengthens my resolve that transitioning was the right thing to do. Even--especially--in this environment.
And before anyone goes "but you live in the US", you're correct, I live in Poland, which stripped us of a dignified way to legally transition in 95, forcing us to sue parents, and removed surgical coverage in 99 out if pure malice and cruelty.
Well, living without any hope of it improving makes you either give up or determined to claw your way forward. I got an op lined up thanks to my wife sacrificing years of her life to a corp and I refuse to back down even if it scares me.
The takeaway: Systems are cruel. People don't have to be.
Fingers crossed for you! I think it helps to realize that laws are artificial, imposed on people to regulate them - but ultimately, nothing stops basic human kindness, and even in darkness, the light will continue to shine because we are just built that way.
I transitioned knowing perfectly well that I might lose everything and be murdered for doing so. I decided that the break-even point where it would be worthwhile is when I could be murdered with nice tits.
I'm not American so the time relevancy isn't directly a threat to me yet but when I had The Realization and was deciding what to do I very quickly landed on the stance that "even if this burns every bridge I've ever had and ends up killing me it would still be the thing I want to do"
‘23 was late enough as is. I’m through holding back, and refuse anything short of *living.* Some of the best joys and people have entered my life since then. I’m 💯% a better and more complete person to boot.
I face it all with a grin and two middle fingers now.
I thought I would lose my job when I came out at my workplace, but reached a point where I couldn’t hide myself any longer, I had to breathe free. And bottom surgery? From the moment I woke up, it was the most normal and natural thing ever. My body looked and felt like it should, and still does.
i’m so sorry you had to face that fear but i’m so glad you get to be yourself. i got fired for coming out and it’s still no regrets. and absolutely bottom surgery has been miraculous for me and im going to fight like hell to see its availability spread fascists be damned
I tried to kill myself on thanksgiving 2022. If I hadn't come out, I wouldn't be here today. Even if I'm murdered by the Trump regime, or the extremists it emboldens, I've had two years to be me that I wouldn't have had at all otherwise. My regret is I needed to get to that point before coming out.
I just feel bad for the eggs that might not crack because it is scarier now, or the people that stay in the closet because they don't know how it feels to be yourself, or that there are people to welcome them on the other side. They are going to lose precious time they will forever regret.
It's true, it has pushed me back quite a bit because I have an anxiety disorder due to trauma and it's very difficult to deal with. I can only imagine how anyone else is getting on because I've been lucky to have had some decent therapists.
right like it’s always “to certain people in certain ways had i knows they were actually shitty and i should’ve just yeeted out of there and been happy sooner” not “i should’ve stayed and never done it”
1) 99.4% satisfaction rate among those who receive surgery, even many, many years later. And when they start talking about "regret rate" it does not mean that the person stopped being trans, it means that they regret getting the surgery - usually because of a complication.
2) If a surgery had a satisfaction rate of +99%, it would be immediately called a medical miracle, especially as the average satisfaction rate for surgery is 85.6%. But because the surgeries involve trans people, it doesn't get that label and is instead met with scorn, misinformation, and bans.
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And before anyone goes "but you live in the US", you're correct, I live in Poland, which stripped us of a dignified way to legally transition in 95, forcing us to sue parents, and removed surgical coverage in 99 out if pure malice and cruelty.
The takeaway: Systems are cruel. People don't have to be.
I saw that - and see it every day.
I just wished it would be in a less hostile world.
I definitely don't regret coming out or my transition
I face it all with a grin and two middle fingers now.
🩷🖕🏻🥰🖕🏻💜
Trans folk have to fight tooth and nail to even get surgery, and have to deal with do much horse shit from insurance and lack of availability.