I finally felt good enough to cook last Monday and made a huge batch of chili and didn't get to eat any of it because as I finished and sat down was when we noticed Bebop's breathing and rushed her to the hospital. And i had to throw it all out. So I've been able to order food. And feel guilty. - ThreadSky

kikidoodle.bsky.social • 4 days ago

I finally felt good enough to cook last Monday and made a huge batch of chili and didn't get to eat any of it because as I finished and sat down was when we noticed Bebop's breathing and rushed her to the hospital.
And i had to throw it all out.

So I've been able to order food. And feel guilty.

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rowena42.bsky.social•4 days ago

Please be gentle with yourself. Every bit of help was sent with love. No donations were conditional.

roombakittens.bsky.social•4 days ago

Don't feel guilty over the words of people who don't even know you. That money helped keep y'all from stressing about how you would pay while being able to care for your cats the best way you could and saved them. The community gave bc they care for you and your cats

dalennau.bsky.social•4 days ago

You asked for help because you determined you needed it. Your assessment on that wasn't wrong just because people gave you more than you expected.
Please don't feel guilty over making that decision. You have that easier time now because of it.

dalennau.bsky.social•4 days ago

If you're feeling bad that your GoFundMe was successful where others often aren't, just find ways to pay some of that kindness you've received forward, when you're able. It'll be more helpful to you and others than holding onto this guilt people are trying to give you, that you don't even deserve.

kikidoodle.bsky.social•4 days ago

We plan to and I've done so in the past. The culture of giving amongst us animal people is truly wonderful

houseofdarkly.bsky.social•4 days ago

I understand why you feel that way, but people chose to send you money because that was what they could do for you. Would you feel guilty if a neighbor brought you a plate of food when they knew you were struggling? This is just that. People want to make it a little easier.

kikidoodle.bsky.social•4 days ago

It's definitely a personal struggle about learning to accept help

houseofdarkly.bsky.social•4 days ago

I totally get it, I think I'd be terrible about it too. But you really do deserve care when you need it, just keep telling yourself that.

artyewok.bsky.social•4 days ago

It is really really hard. I have a hard time with this too. I am so glad you asked for help.

kikidoodle.bsky.social•4 days ago

I understand that I shouldn't feel this way, but I wanted to talk about it. It's always been a struggle to ask for help and I still cannot believe how much everyone rallied behind us.
I never had to second guess treatment which saved 2 of my girls.

I'm eternally thankful.

anangryscientist.bsky.social•4 days ago

Thank you for channeling the energy to help cat folks know the symptoms, and sharing your story. Was happy to chip in a bit, hope your family can heal and move forward.

goldeenogawa.com•3 days ago

I think that posts like this, being open about the way the funding has helped you navigate and recover from this disaster, is the best way to honor all those who have chipped in—because that’s precisely why we DO. It’s so you can just… buy food! And replace crates! And do follow-up appts!

teapot-tadpoles.bsky.social•4 days ago

I relate to the feeling of "must figure it out by myself, must not ask for help, especially money", I try to remind myself that I happily help my loved ones whenever I can and they deserve to do the same with me because that's also how we connect and show love.

crapsuit.bsky.social•3 days ago

I donated because I wanted to chip in for whatever would help with you and the kitties. If that means getting some crates and eating and being able to recover, then that's what it means and I'm happy for it - and I'm sure your supporters all feel this way.

kikidoodle.bsky.social•3 days ago

Thank you 💕

crapsuit.bsky.social•3 days ago

I get the guilt, I do, hell I feel it when someone buys me something tiny. But you gotta give it a gentle pat and say "thanks for keeping me in check, but you aren't required here and can go."

jewelwingaudio.bsky.social•4 days ago

Helping a good person in need is something I always do with the hope that it helps them have less fear about how to make ends meet & stay sane while they deal with awful things :)

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