Earlier this week, my mom gave me shit for not talking to her enough and that we don't have a good relationship, but when I sent her a message that I got tickets to Chappell Roan, she gave me a one-word answer and only asked how her grandson was doing. Like, wtaf does she expect? - ThreadSky

aggieloveseggs.bsky.social • 2 days ago

Earlier this week, my mom gave me shit for not talking to her enough and that we don't have a good relationship, but when I sent her a message that I got tickets to Chappell Roan, she gave me a one-word answer and only asked how her grandson was doing.

Like, wtaf does she expect?

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dopedevices.bsky.social•2 days ago

At least you didn’t just get the thumbs up emoji 👍

😒

aggieloveseggs.bsky.social•2 days ago

Oh. We have a family chat group on WhatsApp, and that's the response I get from other family members - just emojis. So yea, I've basically just stopped sharing anything.

thewhorticulturist.bsky.social•2 days ago

I feel this. I see my mom pretty often, but she does not ask about me. Ever. If work or something comes up, I can’t ever get out more than the basics, and suddenly the conversation has shifted again to something she can relate to.

aggieloveseggs.bsky.social•2 days ago

YES! Everything is about her. And, if it's not that, she tries to pick political fights with me because she knows I'm fairly left-leaning.

thewhorticulturist.bsky.social•2 days ago

At least my parents are democrats. Not what I’d call “woke” (they hated Kendrick Bowl and missed the symbolism completely) but they also hate the orangutan.

aggieloveseggs.bsky.social•2 days ago

Oh, my parents would happily have voted for the orangutan. They're Canadian, though. They are both obsessively Islamophobic and anti-immigration, white replacement theory, etc. I have to shut those conversations down really quickly for my own sanity.

thewhorticulturist.bsky.social•2 days ago

Yeah, nobody needs to hear that shit.

cerrat0nin.swifties.social•2 days ago

mothers are so frustrating, my mom is the same way (except she asks about the cats/work because i don’t have kids) i’m sorry to hear this bestie 🫂 i’m so excited for you to see chappell tho that’s amazing!!

aggieloveseggs.bsky.social•2 days ago

Thank you. I'm so excited even though it's not until August.

cerrat0nin.swifties.social•2 days ago

you should be excited!! that’s so amazing and i’m incredibly jealous haha
i hope august gets here quickly for you!!

staykinduniverse.swifties.social•2 days ago

sigh

teamswizzle.swifties.social•2 days ago

That’s super frustrating. She complains about not talking enough but then barely engages when you do. Feels like she wants the relationship on her terms without putting in real effort. Does she do this often?

aggieloveseggs.bsky.social•2 days ago

Yes. When she's not complaining that my niece likes Taylor Swift enough, as though she wants to pick a fight with me.

teamswizzle.swifties.social•2 days ago

Sounds like she’s more interested in stirring things up than actually connecting. It’s exhausting when someone complains but won’t meet you halfway. Have you ever called her out on it?

aggieloveseggs.bsky.social•2 days ago

Yes. She tells me to stop being dramatic.

teamswizzle.swifties.social•2 days ago

Classic deflection—she gets to complain, but when you push back, you’re the “dramatic” one. That’s a no-win situation. Do you just let it roll off at this point, or does it still get to you?

aggieloveseggs.bsky.social•2 days ago

A lot of the time, I just ignore it, but this last message finally got to me, so I came here to vent, because I know this community will be straight with me, and either support me or tell me that I'm actually the asshole.

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