@ifbookspod.bsky.social did a good episode on that one. Basically it's mostly bunk made up by unqualified hucksters, but not actively harmful if it helps you communicate your needs. Just use it in a descriptive way, not a prescriptive one.
I think it can hold some utility at cueing us to recognize signs of love and caring that we may otherwise take for granted, but I defffinitely don’t want to limit myself to 1 or 2
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his own experiences counselling white Christian heterosexual couples as a pastor.