related side bar is that when i talk about dating, every cis person has assumed im exclusively t4t and says i should expand to cis ppl. i never said i was exclusive! interesting assumption to make! it’s like you already know cis ppl mostly arent into us!
but yes, trans fems to the front of the line for me, i really don’t need partnership with someone who will inevitably say something incredibly shitty about me being trans during the heat of an unrelated argument leaving me quietly devastated for the remainder of the relationship
Like I'm married, was married for almost 20 years before my (and then his) egg cracked, and we're staying together and don't have the social energy to be poly, and still I'm like "yeah, totally"
also helps me understand why I always hated dating
my favorite part is how lesbians are slightly more willing to date trans men, and yes bi lesbians exist but you cannot believe that that vanishingly small group (of which i am a part of) is the cause of that result
i was on a sapphic discord and there were a few trans guys and honestly it was cool and chill and gender and sexuality are complicated … and also at the same seeing that pattern in a large aggregate seems not great
yeah like there's absolutely no judgement on my part on how you wanna identify and who you want to date, but it seems maybe a little problematic how many straight man/lesbian couples i saw yet never once clocked a trans woman at those bars i tell you hwhat (i was an egg).
yeah, i imagine that could shift hetero a lot, maybe gay men some, def less likely on lesbians and queer/bi categories given a rough guide from how lgbtq+ ppl went harris 86%
Kinda curious what the bars would look like if they focused on trans men and women.
Also, would you have to divide NB folks by their biological sex? Or would the data be more useful to lump all NB folks into one category?
On some level I'm being snarky, but I'm also genuinely curious.
yeah there’s a bunch of variations of this study i would love to see, like i am not taking this at 100% accuracy or face value but you can’t tell me these dynamics for trans women and men don’t exist either
cis guy here, pretty embarrassing statistics, must say. maybe I just have a good circle of friends, but I mistakenly assumed it would be at least a little higher than that.
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also helps me understand why I always hated dating
Also, would you have to divide NB folks by their biological sex? Or would the data be more useful to lump all NB folks into one category?
On some level I'm being snarky, but I'm also genuinely curious.
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