One final note: a couple don't need to be married or have children for this dynamic to manifest. Many years ago, I caught myself playing 'mother-mate' to an ex and put a stop to my behaviour. Soon after, the relationship ended.
Such a great book. Been there also playing mother-mate - so strange that the two men I have cohabited with became almost instantly unable to do household tasks they previously could when living alone - and sex went south almost immediately, like a switch flipping….
Yea very interesting…it’s so automatic and ingrained and I think we do it too almost habitually. And same..maybe who knows, I like the idea of separate bedrooms at the least honestly..time to be apart have space then come back together ..seems like a good middle ground!! 😁
The flip side to that is being treated like either some untouchable angel or like I’ve got ‘devil vagina magic’ (true actual quote that was said to me) 😂😩
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Will share a quote about this later this week.
But isn't it interesting that the unspoken assumption is the woman does the domestic tasks? Yeah, no thanks.