Just because you follow me, or if you see my posts on your Fediverse feed, doesn't mean you have permission to say rude or cruel things to me. I know some friends do this as a way to express intimacy. I don't usually talk that way with friends, but I understand that some people do it. But […] - ThreadSky

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evan.cosocial.ca.ap.brid.gy • 1 day ago

Just because you follow me, or if you see my posts on your Fediverse feed, doesn't mean you have permission to say rude or cruel things to me.

I know some friends do this as a way to express intimacy. I don't usually talk that way with friends, but I understand that some people do it.

But […]

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blackburied.newsie.social.ap.brid.gy•21 hours ago

@evan a neighbor told me the other day that I look like shit. Then said she was only joking. Her and my mom will get along great.

evan.cosocial.ca.ap.brid.gy•1 day ago

It feels weird to have to say this.

I think sometimes online people imagine that they are part of a small social group with particular norms, and they think everyone else within earshot has those same norms.

So, your circle on your Fediverse instance may dunk on each other all the time, or do […]

ted.social.gould.cx.ap.brid.gy•1 day ago

@evan it is hard to explain to people, but I think the most powerful part of it all is being able to defederate. If my norms differ from yours, we don't have to be connected. And that's okay. It is infact better.

elight.tenforward.social.ap.brid.gy•1 day ago

@evan Logically, I 💯 recognize and share your belief. And yet I still sometimes fall prey to the perceptual trap you describe.

I'd say that this is likely a universal experience except, under the circumstances, that would be almost painfully ironic.

snow.snowfan.masto.host.ap.brid.gy•1 day ago

@evan 🙏

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