i love asexuality bc of how it complicates neat divisions between love, desire, and friendship. let us make the bonds of the human heart illegible. or rather, let us embrace the illegibility that has been there all along.
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Not only are platonic friendships treated as less deserving of support, but the boundaries set within them are treated as less important too. Many people share secrets they have with platonic friends with partners without the friend’s consent for example.
and often the partner feels *entitled* to know any secrets that their partner knows, even its about someone who didn't consent to share it with them! because people think of monogamous couples as basically a single unit, you can't share with one without sharing with the other
does the word "queerplatonic" not make sense to you? good! now instead of trying to make it make sense within the traditional taxonomies of desire, try to meet it where it is. embrace the unknown. the secret third thing. what's more queer than that?
”you mean ~~~friendship~~~???” sure, friendship that makes every single cishet person around you tell you you’re gonna have to break up with this “just friend” after you get in a relationship bc your future partner will absolutely think of it as cheating.
the inverse of "history will say they were just good friends" cuz history will for sure be speculating. history will have some questions. history will be confused about the nature of the relationship.
f’real, bc it was entirely bc she was a “boy” (lawl) & I was a “girl.” Ppl were weirded out that we *weren’t* hooking up, bc how can you spend all this time together, share trinkets & symbolism, build promise & future & your own language? Professing love w/out dating? you must be lying to yourselves
i am not sure this condition will persist, as i have not finished the season, but among the many things I'm enjoying about Frieren is how it's a love story but none of the loves are romantic.
Once you step outside compulsory heterosexuality you are so free to love recklessly and it breaks my heart to see people endlessly sucked back into being parsimonious with their heart and putting up new walls where they are neither needed nor really wanted.
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it feels like "life partner" for me
in a queers that help each other survive & support each other kinda way
human relationships are complex
it's amazing