You’ll see in the replies and QTs just endless women going “oh yeah definitely”. Men, if you see this behaviour from a male colleague you can step in. Nobody is asking you to beat them up or even start yelling the odds but you can quietly tell them they’re inappropriate.
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Sooz Kempner
I've been in rehearsal rooms with men like Wynne Evans, men who are just a bit cheeky, it's all a laugh, ha ha, he's always standing a bit too close to you, lol lmao, he's putting his arm round you while he's talking but it's all just friendly, at the beginning of the day when you arrive he
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If it's clearly wrong. It's wrong. Just quietly say, "that's not okay here". They're mostly cowards.
If you aren't sure at the time because maybe it's part of a consensual relationship then
Make it clear you're willing to support them in whatever resolution they feel comfortable with, then ask them if they're okay with X's behaviour.
If they want to complain formally, you can support that process.
If they want a quiet warning word had. You could do that.
Don't white knight it, softness in approach and empathy for the victim is the start point. Use your maleness to their advantage if needed - not your own ego.
Sometimes I can tell and sometimes I can't tell.
I just kind of miss those times.
Maybe I just miss being young, carefree and completely stupid.
I blame predators who used "Cheeky" comedy as an excuse; I just wish it was safe for women and men to be ribald in a safe, consenting way.
I *hope* that none of them would expect the same happy give-and-take if they acted the same with strangers/colleagues.
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