“Side” is a useful designation and fits for me, but I feel uneasy that it’s based on a negative: not fucking. I fit that profile. I don’t fuck and I’m not shy about it, but “side” assumes a (perhaps needed) contrary position against the clearly popular top/bottom duality. - ThreadSky

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jackdaddypaul.me • 71 days ago

“Side” is a useful designation and fits for me, but I feel uneasy that it’s based on a negative: not fucking.

I fit that profile. I don’t fuck and I’m not shy about it, but “side” assumes a (perhaps needed) contrary position against the clearly popular top/bottom duality.

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sidesof.bsky.social•71 days ago

This is true, but when you think about all the acts of sex, there are also ones that top/bottoms avoid, like there are some who don't do oral, so its not just sides who exclude some acts. And there's so much outside of "not fucking" that it would be impossible to just lead with the label of ...

sidesof.bsky.social•71 days ago

...side and expect them to know what you like bc not every side necessarily likes everything that's considered outercourse. So whether youre a top/bottom/side, all in all, it really is just better to lead with what youre into and you want at that moment. Clear and upfront communication is always key

jackdaddypaul.me•71 days ago

I like to act as if the world was the way I envision it, which is why I simply present as exactly the man I am. I like certain sexual interactions and just convey that positive message.

And when the top/bottom thing comes up relative to me, I can just say, Oh, I don’t fuck,” and leave it there.

shtevesf.bsky.social•71 days ago

When asked if I’m a top or bottom, I just say I’m an oral kinda guy.

jackdaddypaul.me•71 days ago

That you are!

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