i work with the most quintessential mediocre white dude ever. he will spew absolute nonsense with the confidence of a seasoned air traffic controller. he'll puff up his chest at anyone except someone who can fire him. it's so exhausting.
As a mediocre white man, I'm baffled that women think I have confidence. /s
Seriously though, self-confidence is a learned skill, and (almost) everyone doubts themselves. Learning how your own mind works can definitely help though.
not to be rude but i'm not sure you read the article
yes self confidence is a skill, but society gives men a gigantic benefit of the doubt when it comes to questioning their presence or the things they say, which makes it a lot easer.
women have to "fake it" harder to "make it" anywhere.
i didnt think you were trying to be rude. but the point is that yes, everyone fakes confidence. whenever you speak confidently about something, there's a chance someone will correct you whether or not they know what they're talking about.
In the context of the workplace, I don't think it's fair to say "you just need to learn confidence". "Mediocre white men" have a minimum amount of confidence that is not learned or earned, it just is, because they see others that look like them at work. Women are needing to work harder to be on par.
Everyone's hardships are different, but I do think we owe each other some trust when one person says they're struggling, let alone an entire gender. There's also the science to back it up.
We exist in a complex society, and simplifying it to mostly skill is a lazy argument. We need layers of aid.
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Seriously though, self-confidence is a learned skill, and (almost) everyone doubts themselves. Learning how your own mind works can definitely help though.
yes self confidence is a skill, but society gives men a gigantic benefit of the doubt when it comes to questioning their presence or the things they say, which makes it a lot easer.
women have to "fake it" harder to "make it" anywhere.
There might be external biases, but guys do fake it too - or at least I had to.
I did read about half the article, and I didn't mean to dismiss anyone's hardships - sorry if I came across badly.
that happens more to women than it does men.
Ascribing a "minimum" intrinsic skill to someone misses the effort they put in to gain that skill.
For now, I think this is splitting hairs - everyone's hardships are different, so helping people through those hardships is what's important.
We exist in a complex society, and simplifying it to mostly skill is a lazy argument. We need layers of aid.
I'm not able to really focus on this thing for very long.
Hope you have a good evening!